“It’s not an obligation,” says The Eighth Promise author William Poy Lee of offering to care for his aging mother in an AARP Bulletin special video report on aging in China. Lee, an American-born Chinese, refers to the ancient tradition of xiao shun, or filial piety.
Although Lee’s mom declined his offer to live with him, preferring like most people to age in place, he takes comfort in that she did so freely. “Filial piety isn’t rote or assumed, but rather a loving, symbiotic relationship,” he writes.
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