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Taking Play Seriously
Posted By Gabriela Zabalua On August 19, 2011 @ 11:35 am In Notebook | Comments Disabled
Last week, Segunda launched phase one of her plan: Eat . And, once the tapas-induced fog cleared, she knew her adventure with Lady Piola  wasn’t over. The two brainstormed. Phase two struck like lightning: Play.
When was the last time you played, did something fun just for the heck of it?
When I asked myself this question, post-divorce , I came up empty-handed. Somewhere along the way, I had forgotten that life could be approached with lightness, a sense of play. If I stopped being the “perfect” wife, mother, daughter, worker, friend, then (I believed) my whole life would crumble.
Are you telling yourself a limiting story too?
If boarding a plane and eating tapas  led Segunda to this first realization, then maybe another flight was just the ticket. When I arrived in Scotland , I was determined to take play seriously. So the plan was not to have a plan. Traipsing across this beautiful country, I wasn’t certain of what I was looking for, until I heard it: Laughter . It spilled from a bar, and that was a problem. I had never been in a bar by myself. In fact, my previous self would probably have judged “those kind” of women. I rushed past, reached the corner, and then hesitated. The laughter beckoned. I took a deep breath, turned around, and crossed the bar’s threshold.
Inside, everyone was dancing  and laughing  as if they didn’t have a care in the world. Soon, I was asking a local to dance . Who was this woman I had become? Somewhere, mid-twirl, my laugh joined the others. There’s also nothing like a well-timed dip to turn your world upside down. My previous life had been defined by marriage and – though many of my single friends complained about dating  – I secretly envied their supposed freedom. Now I know it wasn’t about being single,  divorced  or married , but feeling at home within.
From the heights of the Scottish Highlands the next day, I scanned the mountain ranges. Something had shifted. There was a bounce in my step. I laughed. The farther I walked along dirt paths, the lighter I felt. I had become disconnected from my body. But now I knew that was changing too. Phase three of my plan propelled me forward.
Join me again next week for another adventure with Segunda.
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URLs in this post:
 Image: http://aarpblog.files.wordpress.com/2011/07/blog10.jpg
 Eat: http://www.aarp.org/food/experts/denisse-oller/
 Lady Piola: http://www.aarp.org/relationships/pets/
 post-divorce: http://www.aarp.org/money/budgeting-saving/info-01-2011/more-tips-on-late-life-divorce-and-your-money.html
 tapas: http://www.aarp.org/food/entertaining/info-04-2009/jose_andres_small_plates.html
 Scotland: http://www.aarp.org/travel/destinations/info-03-2009/scotlands_sacred_isle.html
 Laughter: http://www.aarp.org/health/healthy-living/info-06-2011/laughter-health.html
 dancing: http://www.aarp.org/entertainment/movies-tv/info-10-2010/dancing-with-star-corky-ballas.html
 laughing: http://www.aarp.org/personal-growth/life-stories/info-06-2011/laugh-latino-comedians.html
 dance: http://www.aarp.org/personal-growth/life-long-learning/info-2007/dancing-keeps-your-brain-sharp.html
 dating: http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-04-2011/ready-to-date-again.html
 single,: http://www.aarp.org/relationships/caregiving/info-10-2010/women_and_long-term_care_patricias_story.html
 married: http://www.aarp.org/personal-growth/transitions/info-05-2011/5-weeks-marriage-tips.html
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