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4 Tough Decisions I’ve Made as a Caregiver
Posted By Amy Goyer On March 27, 2012 @ 4:27 pm In Take Care | Comments Disabled
As a caregiver , I make a hundred decisions on my parents’ behalf every week. Whenever possible, I make decisions with my parents – but many times I am forced to make decisions for them. Some are easier than others.
Sometimes I take it in stride…other days the stress piles up and an implosion is inevitable . Some decisions are made quickly in the spur of the moment – like deciding whether to take time to stop and take a walk with Dad and Jackson , choosing flowers at the grocery store for Mom, or deciding to spend a bit more on organic  veggies for them. Other decisions require more thought and sometimes extensive research, such as choices about their finances, properties, health care and legal issues.
Every decision – big or small – I make has unlimited outcomes.
In the three years of intensive caregiving for my parents, these four decisions are some of the hardest I’ve had to make:
These have all been tough decisions, and I know there are many more ahead of me – large and small. I play the “what if” game more than I know I should; did I make the right decision? But my wise friend, Anne, has always told me, “Don’t should on yourself.” I know she’s right. So I make the best educated decisions I can at the time and try not to beat myself up for occasionally second-guessing them. I’m human, and having someone else’s lives in my hands is not something I can take lightly.
Each decision moves us forward … and another decision can always be made in the future.
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 caregiver: http://www.aarp.org/home-family/caregiving/?cmp=SN-BLOG-PJS
 an implosion is inevitable: http://blog.aarp.org/2011/07/20/caregiver-meltdown/
 a walk with Dad and Jackson: http://blog.aarp.org/2011/08/16/wonder-dog-reminds-me-whats-important/
 organic: http://www.aarp.org/food/cooking/info-03-2011/5-ways-to-go-organic.html
 my parents were ready to move : http://www.aarp.org/relationships/family/info-09-2009/goyer_the_big_move.html
 my niece : http://blog.aarp.org/2012/02/28/caregiving-death-of-a-family-member/
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