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3 Things Siblings Can Do to Care for a Parent
Posted By Patti Shea On November 29, 2012 @ 5:33 pm In Take Care | Comments Disabled
Editor’s note: The following is a guest post by Barry J. Jacobs , Psy.D., who specializes in helping families cope with serious and chronic medical illness.
The brothers and sisters  who file into my office have tight-lipped, apprehensive looks. They’ve voluntarily chosen to meet with me for a caregiving  consultation in order to find a way to better coordinate their efforts to help an aging parent. But they’re afraid of what might happen once we begin talking: Will old rivalries and resentments rear their heads? Will I judge them singly or collectively as bad children? Will the meeting inspire stronger caregiving or spark endless conflict?
I’ve seen the outcome of these types of sibling meetings hinge on three questions:
My hope is that – through engaging these questions – siblings’ apprehension can be turned to appreciation that they are engaged in a common righteous cause: Help Mom and Dad live as fully and safely as possible.
Barry J. Jacobs  is a clinical psychologist, family therapist and the author of the book, The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers - Looking After Yourself and Your Family While Helping an Aging Parent. You can read more about him here .
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