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Why You Should Go to Your Reunion

Admit it, you’ve sneaked a peek at the Facebook listing of a grade-school pal or enemy; you’ve Googled a high school sweetheart; you’ve even contemplated going to a reunion, after decades of scorning them. You may not be able to explain this increasing curiosity about those long-lost relationships, but we are all doing it. Think of it as historical house-cleaning. Among the many needs that emerge as we reach our fifties, sixties, and seventies is the need to explore the past, put nagging guilts and resentments to rest, and cull the meaningful lessons and cherished reminiscences we want to preserve.

Childhood friends are in a unique position to facilitate that process; they knew you back before you knew yourself.  The turmoil of those first friendships were your first experiences in loyalty, betrayal, daring, intimacy. Furthermore, they are living fact-checkers on the personal narrative you have learned by heart. Your old friends can fill in gaps, offer a different perspective on events, and remind you how much fun you had, as they best-friend you all over again.

A longing for authentication sends us to Facebook and Google and even to looking someone up when you are passing through the town they live in. Or, possibly signing up for a class reunion.  Why now?


That is the miracle of childhood friends; they will always be there as witness to the past and reflection of our own life trajectory.