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What Dads Really Need for Father’s Day
Posted By Mattie Snider On June 14, 2013 @ 4:22 pm In Take Care | Comments Disabled
My dad is a man of simple needs, and the same goes for his Father’s Day desires. Last year my mom and I surprised him with a charcoal grill, and, in a pinch, he always appreciates a handmade coupon for nine holes of golf with his favorite (and only) daughter. My parents have recently graduated to empty-nester status and, as they revel over the clutter-free counter tops and the need for only one carton of milk a week, the whole family’s thinking more about our transition to this more mature stage.
I had always assumed that by the time my brothers and I “grew up” we’d have it all figured out, including the major discussions  of how best to help our parents as they age and change. But an online survey of 1,110 adults ages 40 and older, commissioned by the in-home senior care company Visiting Angels , found that nearly three out of four (72 percent) didn’t have any sort of plan at all and that 54 percent hadn’t even broached the subject with their parents. Other surprising findings:
How and when are we supposed to start these potentially sensitive family conversations?
“The conversation needs to start before a crisis,” says Larry Meigs, CEO of Visiting Angels. Otherwise, you may find that you and your siblings have very different assumptions about who should do what. And the last thing you want in dear old dad’s future is a family feud.
So while a dozen golf balls or the latest advancement in grill technology (Bluetooth lamp-radio, anyone?) may be a well-deserved token of Father’s Day love, nothing beats peace of mind.
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 major discussions: http://blog.aarp.org/2013/05/22/end-of-life-plan-caring-for-dying-family-ted-conference-aging-well/?intcmp=AE-BLIL-BL
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 Favorite Flicks for Father’s Day: http://blog.aarp.org/2013/06/12/fathers-day-movies-from-clint-to-clark-griswold/?intcmp=AE-ENDART1-BL-REL
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