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All Is Fair in Love & Gift-Giving?

Posted By Dr. Pepper Schwartz On July 3, 2013 @ 1:05 pm In Sexology | Comments Disabled

Gift-Giving [1]


Q: I remarried two years ago and am happy as can be, except that my husband and I can’t figure out how to deal with gift-giving. I have to buy presents for 10 people on  his side, and he has only one person to buy for on my side. Can you help us find a logical solution?

Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Hey, you’re a couple now – split everything! That means you will be doing more for him than he does for you – but it doesn’t hurt to be generous every now and then. One way of solving it, though, is to get less expensive, but perhaps more inventive [2], presents than in the past, so that the total number of dollars is not mind-boggling. You could give food gifts (cookies, cakes, etc.) or lessons (Groupon [3] has some amazing prices), or get clever and shop at places that have great stuff at cut-rate prices. Make it a fun challenge to make or find these things together. Try to find ways to make these little challenges a relationship triumph, rather than a conflict.

Photo by Thana Thaweeskulchai [4].

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