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What Are We Willing—and Not Willing—to Do for Mom and Dad?
Posted By Sally Abrahms On September 18, 2013 @ 8:00 am In Caregiving | Comments Disabled
How do we view our role in taking care of our parents ? Are we willing to help them out financially? What about having them move in with us? And, what are our expectations for our own children  when we need help?
These intriguing questions are addressed in a just-released national, online study . This past June, MORE  magazine surveyed 751 adults age 18+ with at least one living parent or guardian. The full story with results will be published online in the coming weeks and is in this month’s MORE magazine.
The two most unsettling statistics:
Here are other insightful findings:
We still have Momma’s boys and Daddy’s girls. According to the study, males ages 18-29 are nearly twice as likely as their counterpart females to live with their mothers, and men age 55-plus are six times more likely as females to live with Mom. Women ages 40-54 are twice as likely as guys the same age to have Dad move in.
Alert: Women say they want less emotional, physical and financial help from their kids than men. That breaks down as 61% of women and 67% of men think their kids should help care for them; 57% of men vs. 49% of women believe their kids should let them live with them. What’s more, 50% of men and just 38% of women feel their children should give them money for long-term care.
The takeaway: Find out what your parents have in mind should/when they become dependent. If the answer is, “I haven’t thought about it” or “we’ll cross that bridge. . .” you’re all set to segue into a meaningful conversation .
Baby boomers , the same goes for you and your children. The key word is “expectations.”
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