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The Caregiving Worries of Parents with Special Needs Kids
Posted By Sally Abrahms On March 12, 2014 @ 4:41 pm In Caregiving | Comments Disabled
Most of us think about taking care of our aging parents or spouse , not our kids. But there are more than 11 million Americans currently providing care for a family member between the ages of 18 and 49. Many worry deeply about their loved one’s future should something unexpectedly happen to them or their spouse.
“I worry night and day,” a friend told me. “What happens to my daughter when I’m no longer here?” Her daughter, now 27, has had neurological, physical and cognitive deficits since she was a baby. (My friend also has an older brother with schizophrenia. Fortunately, he is a veteran and receives care and housing through the government. But he is nearby and spends some weekends and all holidays with her.)
The number of Americans caring for younger people will only increase as the first wave of young men and women diagnosed with autism  as children come of age. And there are many more behind them. While some are functional, a huge number of them will not be able to live independently and will need significant help. This will have an unquestionable impact on health care and caregivers.
Another factor to consider: While those on the autism spectrum may be the biggest special needs group, people with Down syndrome  now have a much longer life expectancy. Longevity for adult children with mental illness or other disabilities means more years for parents to worry about, and care for, their younger adults.
Boomer parents are getting older. Many are caring for their own parents as well as a special needs adult child (or children). They may feel financially strapped. And for single parents, the going is even tougher. Caring for a disabled adult is expensive. The needs of these two huge demographics — adult disabled children and their parents now in their 50s and 60s — are colliding.
A surge in late-life divorce , along with widowhood and the recession, will require parents to work longer, creating less time for adult caregiving. Siblings and relatives who might have been able to take over down the road may live thousands of miles away.
A National Alliance for Caregiving/AARP/MetLife Foundation study  conducted four years ago offers insight into the plight of the caregiver.
Take a look at these findings:
Do you care for a child or other relative ages 18-49? What do you find most difficult? What are your concerns for the future? Let me know.
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