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Amy Goyer


As an expert in aging and families, specializing in family caregiving and multigenerational issues, I am a consultant, speaker and writer. I've worked for more than 30 years with older adults, children with special needs and their families.

As AARP's Home & Family Expert, I provide expertise on a variety of issues, including family caregiving and aging in place, livable communities, grandparenting, parenting and other family relationships, multigenerational living and family history.

Right now the most important role I'm playing in life is that of primary caregiver for my parents who are 86 and 89. In 2009 I moved to Arizona to be close to my parents and I return to Washington, DC frequently for business. It's a crazy life but I'm grateful to be able to support my parents and do the work I love at the same time!

My Take Care blog posts are about caregiving for Mom and Dad, and you'll also hear about my partner in caregiving: the adorable Jackson, their service dog, who is a Schnoodle. My All in the Family blog posts are about a variety of family, friendship and other relationship issues. I also write a column on, act as a media spokesperson and am a regular guest on AARP radio. Author of "Things to do now you're a Grandparent." Winner of 2012 ALTY Best Blog Award in Caregiving category and Finalist in Social Media Rockstar Award.

My new book, "Juggling Work and Caregiving" will be released in fall of 2013.

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Siblings, Gratitude and Aging Parents

Posted on 01/31/2014 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingWhether you’ve had a lifelong sibling rivalry or been the best of friends, sibling relationships can be very difficult to navigate when caring for an aging parent. I am in contact with many family caregivers, and I often hear about conflict between siblings around caregiving decisions and responsibilities. Some are at such odds that they either don’t communicate or have a great deal of trouble doing so. Others say that a simple expression of appreciation would go a long way …

Wanted: A Family for Christmas

Posted on 12/23/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingChristmas is traditionally a time when families gather. Sure, all families are imperfect; we all have disagreements and conflicts. But for most, the love is still there and holidays are special times. For many, however, there are no good memories of Christmas mornings or good-natured squabbles over holiday plans. There is, essentially, no family. CBS News recently aired this story about Jackie Turner, a student at William Jessup University, near Sacramento, Calif. Jackie was facing another Christmas with no family. …

Why I Thanked a Caregiver

Posted on 11/21/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingMy older sister Linda Goyer Lane is part of the “sandwich generation”—people who care for their aging parents while simultaneously supporting children of their own. When my parents began needing 24-hour care about a year and a half ago, Linda stepped up in a big way to help me care for them. She and her two sons (one in high school, one in college) have all made sacrifices as she began traveling to Arizona for a week or two at …

Joy and Sorrow: A Precious Photo of My Mom and Me

Posted on 11/5/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt’s strange, the things that go through our minds when we are suffering a life-altering, heartbreaking loss. When my Mom passed just three weeks ago, one of the first things I thought of was the coming issue of the AARP Bulletin with our photo on the cover and an excerpt of my book, AARP’s Juggling Work and Caregiving. I knew it was to be a visual depiction of the love I feel for my mom and the care I was …

Losing Mom: The Void That Can’t Be Filled

Posted on 10/31/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt is with an impossibly heavy heart that I write this post. Patricia Ann Stutz Goyer, passed on Oct. 11 after a brief and sudden illness. To many she was friend, mentor, teacher, director, aunt, sister, wife … to me she was Mom, and she has been the inspiration for so much of my work and writing over the past four years. Mom was a remarkable woman. She grew up in Indiana, salutatorian of her high school graduating class. She …

What Role Do You Play in Your Grandchildren’s Lives?

Posted on 10/8/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

Your LifeYou may love being a grandparent, but are you willing to help raise your grandchildren? That’s what NBC’s Today wants to know, in a new poll they have posted on in Maria Shriver’s blog post about the changing roles of grandparents. I’ve tracked this topic for many years, and AARP, MetLife and other organizations have gathered data indicating grandparents play important roles in their grandkids lives. Grandparents provide significant financial support and child care for grandchildren. Many live with their …