Aging, Home & Family Expert

As an expert in aging and families, specializing in family caregiving and multigenerational issues, Amy Goyer is a consultant, speaker, writer and AARP Home & Family Expert. She is the primary caregiver for her father in Arizona. Follow her on Twitter @amygoyer and Pinterest! Connect on Facebook www.facebook.com/amygoyer1 or LinkedIn; she's agoyer here in the AARP Online Community.

Wanted: A Family for Christmas

Christmas is traditionally a time when families gather. Sure, all families are imperfect; we all have disagreements and conflicts. But for most, the love is still there and holidays are special times. For many, however, there are no good memories of Christmas mornings or good-natured squabbles over holiday plans. There is, essentially, no family. CBS News recently aired this story about Jackie Turner, a student at William Jessup University, near Sacramento, Calif. Jackie was facing another Christmas with no family. …

Why I Thanked a Caregiver

My older sister Linda Goyer Lane is part of the “sandwich generation”-people who care for their aging parents while simultaneously supporting children of their own. When my parents began needing 24-hour care about a year and a half ago, Linda stepped up in a big way to help me care for them. She and her two sons (one in high school, one in college) have all made sacrifices as she began traveling to Arizona for a week or two at …

Joy and Sorrow: A Precious Photo of My Mom and Me

It’s strange, the things that go through our minds when we are suffering a life-altering, heartbreaking loss. When my Mom passed just three weeks ago, one of the first things I thought of was the coming issue of the AARP Bulletin with our photo on the cover and an excerpt of my book, AARP’s Juggling Work and Caregiving. I knew it was to be a visual depiction of the love I feel for my mom and the care I was …

Losing Mom: The Void That Can’t Be Filled

It is with an impossibly heavy heart that I write this post. Patricia Ann Stutz Goyer, passed on Oct. 11 after a brief and sudden illness. To many she was friend, mentor, teacher, director, aunt, sister, wife … to me she was Mom, and she has been the inspiration for so much of my work and writing over the past four years. Mom was a remarkable woman. She grew up in Indiana, salutatorian of her high school graduating class. She …

What Role Do You Play in Your Grandchildren’s Lives?

You may love being a grandparent, but are you willing to help raise your grandchildren? That’s what NBC’s Today wants to know, in a new poll they have posted on Today.com in Maria Shriver’s blog post about the changing roles of grandparents. I’ve tracked this topic for many years, and AARP, MetLife and other organizations have gathered data indicating grandparents play important roles in their grandkids lives. Grandparents provide significant financial support and child care for grandchildren. Many live with their …

8 Ways That Grandparents Really Rock!

This Sunday is National Grandparents Day and to celebrate, I’ve compiled a list of the eight reasons I think grandparents are beyond fabulous: They’re grand role models. This generation of grandparents rocks, but not in a chair on the front porch. Today’s Grandma and Grandpa live more active, interesting lives than any generation before. They’ve been there, done that – and they’ve brought the grandkids T-shirts to prove it. Their values, skills and life experience make them people to look up …