Dr. Pepper Schwartz

Biography: I'm AARP's sex and relationship expert, where I strive to improve the lives of aging boomers and the age-50 audience by enhancing their relationships and offering counsel on everything from sex and health issues to communication and dating in midlife and beyond.

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Enough Is Enough

Posted on 01/11/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Relationships | Your LifeQ: I don’t love my husband anymore. He is controlling, verbally abusive and only wants me for sex. He is retired and I work full time. He never helps around the house, yet questions everything I do. If I work overtime at my job as a medical assistant, he accuses me of having an affair. He has driven my son and daughter away. We went for counseling, and the counselor said he never loved me, just needed me. He has …

Growth in STDs Among Young Can Endanger Future 50+

Posted on 01/10/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Personal Health | RelationshipsThe Centers for Disease Control (CDC) recently released its 2011 summary of sexually transmitted disease statistics and trends in the United States, and the news is bad: There was an 8 percent increase in chlamydia and a 4 percent increase in gonorrhea over 2010 stats. Syphilis rates remained unchanged, which is to say, no worse but no better. Women’s rate of increase in chlamydia was much higher than men’s, although the research indicated that might be because of more women …

Different Kinds of Retirement Benefits

Posted on 01/9/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Relationships | Your LifeQ: I’m a 65-year-young woman and had been without sex and a relationship for four years. I have met a 61-year-old man and and we have been seeing each other for six months. The sex we have is something I dreamed about. I call him my sex therapist. He has introduced me to “toys” and oral sex, among other wonderful experiences. Is this normal at this time in my life, or do I need some help? We are seeing each …

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Posted on 12/3/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Relationships | Your LifeQ: I have been dating a man for roughly 11/2 years. A few months ago I told him I loved him. He said it too, but only in response to me having said it. I noticed that that was the only time he would say it, so I stopped saying it with the hope that he would notice and eventually ask why. He never did and he also never told me he loved me first. I finally talked to him …

My Husband Is Online Dating. What Do I Do?

Posted on 11/30/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: I recently discovered that my husband is on several online dating sites. When I confronted him, he said he was sorry and claimed he wasn’t necessarily trying to “hook up” with anyone. But his profiles on the sites state that he was trying to connect with people for those reasons. I have not found any real proof that he hooked up with anyone else, but he is such a liar I don’t know what to believe! If we didn’t …

Staying Married for the Sake of the Grandkid

Posted on 11/27/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: My husband and I, both 65, have been married for nearly 45 years. After 22 years of marriage, he had an affair. We worked through it, with intense counseling, and he promised it would never happen again. After 38 years of marriage, he did it again. Not much counseling after that one, as he really was not interested. We have remained married, but it has been a sexless marriage for well over two years. We are now involved with …