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Dr. Pepper Schwartz


As AARP's sex and relationship expert, Pepper Schwartz aims to improve the lives of the age-50-plus audience by enhancing their relationships and offering counsel on everything from sex and health issues to communication and dating.

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Getting Intimate With Herpes

Posted on 08/12/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’ve had herpes for the past 20 years. Now, whenever I tell a woman about it (before we become intimate, of course) I’m met with rejection. Are there any safe sites to find partners with herpes? By the way, I don’t like using condoms. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Yes, if you go online you will find sites that help people with herpes find each other. Just Google “herpes and sexual partners” or “herpes communities.” However, many people who have herpes …

Overcoming Loss of Libido After Cancer

Posted on 08/9/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I am 69 years of age and married. Three and a half years ago I had radiation treatment  for prostate cancer. The cancer is in remission. However, my libido has come to a screeching halt. I have no interest in sex, although I have forced myself to try masturbation to try for an erection. Occasionally this will work, but most times it is a failure. Because of my lack of libido, my wife and I are slipping away from …

Can the Right Foods Increase Sperm Count?

Posted on 08/7/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My urologist told me that my sperm are malfunctioning because they are shaped differently than normal sperm and are not moving as quickly as they should, and that I have a low quantity. He said this could result from a low hormone count. What can I do to increase my sperm count? I know that I should eat properly, but I don’t know which foods supply the vitamins that will increase my levels of testosterone, sperm, semen and testosterone? …

I’m Just Not Interested

Posted on 08/5/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I just read your article about having a celibate marriage, and my marriage has turned into that. Although it’s not due to any type of punishment — it’s just that I have lost all interest in sex. I love my spouse; he loves me. There are no problems, no stresses. We get along great, but I just can’t find the interest. My doctor said it was probably stress but I am retired and don’t have any. I’ve talked to …

Men Don’t Only Want Sex. They Want Friendship, Too

Posted on 08/2/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I have been divorced for almost three years and am having difficulty meeting men. Most of the guys I encounter just want sex. I want more: respect, friendship, kindness, mutual enjoyment. Any suggestions? After 29 1/2 years of an abusive marriage, I would like to think there are some nice men out there. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: There are definitely some nice men out there. Of course, your life has been colored by an abusive marriage and you have to …

Two Words: Sex Therapist

Posted on 07/31/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: The woman I married two years ago doesn’t really know how to make love to me. I am 68, and my wife is 57. I still have the drive to have sex, but she is not used to initiating the first move. She doesn’t like to kiss and isn’t romantic at all. When I listen to soft music to try and get things started, she asks me why I play sad music. I have been patient with her as …