How Men Date — and Women Should, Too

OK, ladies, let’s look at specific male dating behaviors and identify which ones might work for us, too. Here are a few of my favorites from the book How to Date Like a Man by Myreah Moore. A guilt-free numbers game. Men feel completely guilt-free while dating women simultaneously. Dating multiple men left me feeling a little guilty. But then came the man who, on just our second date, said he quit an online dating site after meeting me and wanted me to meet …

My New Strategy: 6 Dates, 5 Men, 1 Week

One man I was going out with said that men date different women simultaneously to find the most appealing one. Others tell me you have to kiss many frogs to find your prince. So I finally decided to spice up my sequential dating “strategy” and try dating more than one man at a time. This past week I went on six dates with five different men. Three were blind dates from an online site and two were men I’ve been …

How a Woman Can Date Like a Man

A recent first date was quite forthcoming. He suggested that I date like a man. As a man, he dates multiple women at the same time and whittles away those he doesn’t like until only one he likes remains. He referred to the women he’s dating as his “harem.” It turned out that I became the woman he finally selected, and to no one’s surprise, the relationship didn’t last long. It did, however, plant an idea. Why can’t a woman date …

My First Kiss

On my first date since becoming single again, the guy tried to swoop down and kiss me. I counter-swooped out of range. I wondered, why do total strangers think I should press my lips against theirs? The second man I went out with kissed me on the cheek. I figured that was OK, though my preference is to shake hands hello and goodbye on the first date. When I shook hands with my third date, he said, “Oh, the old …

 What Is Flirting, Anyway?

I missed Flirting 101 in college, and it still doesn’t come naturally to me. (I don’t accessorize well either.) I don’t even understand what flirting is or how to recognize it. Girlfriends, even my children, have said, “He’s flirting with you.” I say, “Really?” Recently, my girlfriend and I were visiting her platonic male friend, an alleged skirt chaser. We were drinking iced tea in his beautiful garden filled with herbs, vegetables and flowers. He says to me, “Watch out, …

How I’m Debunking a Myth About Online Dating

A recent Washington Post article written by Christian Rudder, author of Dataclysm and cofounder of OkCupid, debunked five myths about online dating. The fifth: “Photos are the best way to tell whether you’ll be attracted to someone.” Rudder described a little experiment to promote “blind-dating” on his dating site. He called it Love Is Blind Day. For just one day, his company removed all the profile photographs on the dating site. Site traffic dropped more than 80 percent that day. …