In My Dreams, My Wife Is the Only One Sleeping — Around!

Q: About 18 months ago I was put on AndroGel for low testosterone. It has worked well — my energy level is up, and so is my libido — but there’s a problem: I keep dreaming my wife is having sex with other men. The sex is quite graphic. It causes me to wake up about 2 a.m. with a very good erection, and leaves me unable to get back to sleep. The dreams stay on my mind throughout the …

Who Are More Unfaithful — Men or Women?

Q: In a recent column you said that in most long-term marriages that fail, men are generally the ones who cheat on their wives. I’d like to know where you got that information. The statistics I’ve read in the past few years show a higher incidence of infidelity from women than men. A: Fair enough — my information came from these two sources: 1. A study of 25,000 respondents that I did in collaboration with Jim Witte (a Harvard-trained demographer …

Caitlyn Jenner Proves It’s Never Too Late to ‘Deal With Yourself’

Well, finally — the cultural conversation about gender and sexual identity has shifted, and all it took was some folks in their 60s and 70s to lead the way. Most notable, of course, is Caitlyn Jenner (right), who at 65 is about to conclude her very public transgender journey. But Jeffrey Tambor, 70, in the Amazon TV series Transparent, as well as the four 70-something stars of the new Netflix series Grace and Frankie are also mainstreaming the conversation about …

‘I Love You, but It Hurts’

Q: I have a genetic condition that makes my bones and joints stiff and painful, giving me absolutely NO interest in sex. In fact I couldn’t care less if the next man who touches me is the coroner! As you might imagine, my husband is not thrilled about this state of affairs; he could have sex two or three times a day. I offer to please him, but now he wants me to “get into it,” too, and I just …

On Different Sexual Wavelengths?

Q: My wife is rarely interested in sex and gets irritated when I drop hints about meeting in the bedroom or wherever. When the deed does (infrequently) occur, though, she has roaring orgasms — which I love to help with. You’d think that would be a plus, but we’re on different wavelengths, and now I worry about the “use it or lose it” thing setting in. A: Women’s sexual desire is a mystery — a mystery to experts, a mystery …

Monica Lewinsky: Victim of an Outdated Double Standard

In a story to be published by Vanity Fair magazine on May 8, Monica Lewinsky, now 40, relives the pain and humiliation of being shunned – really shunned – in the old-fashioned sense of the word. For nearly two decades since reports of her presidential dalliance stole the headlines in 1998, the former White House intern has been unable to land a job. “Because of what potential employers so tactfully referred to as my ‘history,’ ” she discloses in the …