How to Keep a Family Feud off the Turkey Day Menu

In Norman Rockwell’s familiar Thanksgiving fantasy, Grandma presents a glistening turkey to a happy, multigenerational family. Cut to real life: Disasters range from a firebombed deep-fried turkey to soggy pumpkin pie. And that’s just the food! Unlike the Rockwell tableau, some dinner table conversation more closely resembles the family fireworks in August: Osage County. Thanksgiving can come to mean “family, food, football and feuds,” says Helen Oxenberg, an advice columnist and social worker. >> 10 Tips for Caregivers During the …

Millennials Need Parents to Talk About Long-Term Plans

Religion, sex, politics and money rank as taboo topics for polite conversation, perhaps avoided with our adult children, too. But money should be on the table for the simple reason that our financial situation often affects our kids as we age. A reminder of that comes in an honest and heartfelt column by Yahoo financial adviser Mandi Woodruff about her parents. She writes: “These days, I find myself worrying far more about their financial futures than I do my own. …

What Exactly Is Your Adult Child’s Job?

In 1993, we celebrated the first Take Your Daughter to Work Day. But have you ever wondered what your kid does in a job that perhaps didn’t exist five years ago? What exactly is a social media manager, a data scientist or even an actuary? The answer will be offered Nov. 6 at Bring In Your Parents Day, an event sponsored and promoted by LinkedIn at 28 companies in 14 countries. While Google was the first firm to sponsor a …

When Scary Headlines Make You Anxious About Millennial Kids

When our millennial children live in another city or away at school, most of the time “out of sight” means “out of mind.” But breaking news headlines can raise our anxiety levels to high alert, and recently that seems almost a daily occurrence. Example: the disappearance and murder of University of Virginia sophomore Hannah Graham. It attracted national media attention during the last few weeks, and no wonder: Many parents immediately related to the story. Grown & Flown blogger Mary …

When Your Kid’s Romance Ends and You Hurt, Too

“They say that breaking up is hard to do. Now I know, I know that it’s true.”  That Neil Sedaka song was recorded twice — in 1962 and in 1975 — a testament to the truth of the lyrics. Breakups are painful, even when it’s not you but your adult child. At a recent wedding, a guest looked wistfully at the joyous couple and mentioned that his twentysomething son had ended a long-term relationship with a woman whom the father …

Why Millennials Are So Self-Centered

Time magazine put our adult children on its cover last year and dubbed them “Generation Me, Me, Me.” In response, some critics noted that several generations — notably baby boomers — could also wear the “all about me” tag. Not so, argues Jean Twenge, a San Diego State University psychology professor. She cites dozens of research studies to make her point that millennials do indeed deserve the “Generation Me” label. That just happens to be the title of her book. …