adult children

What Are We Willing—and Not Willing—to Do for Mom and Dad?

Posted on 09/18/2013 by | Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingHow do we view our role in taking care of our parents? Are we willing to help them out financially? What about having them move in with us? And, what are our expectations for our own children when we need help? These intriguing questions are addressed in a just-released national, online study. This past June, MORE magazine surveyed 751 adults age 18+ with at least one living parent or guardian. The full story with results will be published online in the coming …

Sibling Squabbles Over Mom? 7 Tips for Getting Along

Posted on 07/31/2013 by | Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingRelationships with siblings can be solid and fulfilling, yet when there are issues regarding aging parents, even the sweetest situations can turn strained or worse. Hot-button issues are almost always around money (your parents’, caregiving expenses and who pays), family possessions, Mom and Dad’s independence and safety, living arrangements or medical decisions. You know what they say about too many cooks in the kitchen…. Or not enough. Your brother and sister might be delighted to leave the caregiving to you. …

Visit Your Parents or Be Sued: Is That Un-American?

Posted on 07/8/2013 by | News, Culture, Sights and Sounds | Comments

Bulletin Today | Home & FamilyBulletin from Wuxi, China: In the first suit filed under the country’s new law requiring adult children to visit their parents “often,” a court ordered a woman to check in on her 77-year-old mother at least twice a month, and on at least two of the country’s big holidays. With our summer vacations in full swing in the United States, we wonder whether a similar “don’t-you-dare-ignore-your-parents” law would fly here? Discussion: Zimmerman Verdict of Not-Guilty: Was Justice Served? Today’s Americans …

Family Affairs: Do Your Kids a Favor

Posted on 06/7/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Home & FamilyThis is a guest post by Bart Astor. The other day I saw an ad with the headline, “Do your kids a favor.” It went on to say, “You checked for monsters under her bed, sent her to the best school, and helped her buy her first car. Now, do her one more favor.” That favor involves making plans in advance and communicating your wishes to your children. The ad, for a funeral home, takes a subject people don’t like …

Who Will Be Your Caregiver? I Know Who Won’t Be Mine

Posted on 01/3/2013 by | Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingI usually write about other people, but indulge me a minute. I have been a long-distance family caregiver for 12 years straight (father, mother, mother-in-law) and in the future, I will likely need and want a family caregiver myself. My three kids are spread out across the country (Florida, California, New York), but I thought not for long. For the last year, my son and his wife have said they planned to move to Boston from the West Coast. (They …

Bank Of Dad A Boon For Adult Kids

Posted on 06/26/2012 by | Money and Work | Comments

Bulletin Today | Home & FamilyBoomer moms may talk to their adult kids more about money matters but dads are more willing to dig into their wallets and hand out the cash. The Bank of Dad comes to the rescue more than mom when it involves helping their grown kids: • Buy a car  (58 percent versus 48 percent) • Co-sign a loan or lease agreement (42 percent versus 32 percent) • Pay for car insurance (51 percent versus 43 percent) • Help with car …