adult children

More Filial Support Cases Ending Up in Court

Posted on 10/28/2013 by |Legal Grounds | Comments

Bulletin TodaySome 30 states have “filial support” or “filial responsibility” laws, which create a statutory duty for adult children to provide financially for their parents if the parents cannot otherwise pay. They’re based on the centuries-old moral principle of filial piety, which holds that adult children have a duty to respect, obey and personally care for elderly parents and relatives. >> Sign up for the AARP Money Matters newsletter Typically, these laws obligate adult children to pay for their indigent parents’ …

Who Cares? Boomers Don’t Want to Live With Their Adult Kids, Either

Posted on 10/2/2013 by |Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingGuess what Millennials? Your boomer parents aren’t dying to move in with you if they need care in retirement. That’s one of the takeaways of a new study. (With three young adult children, that’s what first caught my eye!) Bankers Life and Casualty Company’s Center for a Secure Retirement surveyed 1,299 Americans ages 49-67 (boomers) with an annual income of $25,000-$75,000 to find out their views on their future as recipients of care. In the study, boomers say that in the past …

What Are We Willing—and Not Willing—to Do for Mom and Dad?

Posted on 09/18/2013 by |Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingHow do we view our role in taking care of our parents? Are we willing to help them out financially? What about having them move in with us? And, what are our expectations for our own children when we need help? These intriguing questions are addressed in a just-released national, online study. This past June, MORE magazine surveyed 751 adults age 18+ with at least one living parent or guardian. The full story with results will be published online in the coming …

Sibling Squabbles Over Mom? 7 Tips for Getting Along

Posted on 07/31/2013 by |Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingRelationships with siblings can be solid and fulfilling, yet when there are issues regarding aging parents, even the sweetest situations can turn strained or worse. Hot-button issues are almost always around money (your parents’, caregiving expenses and who pays), family possessions, Mom and Dad’s independence and safety, living arrangements or medical decisions. You know what they say about too many cooks in the kitchen…. Or not enough. Your brother and sister might be delighted to leave the caregiving to you. …

Visit Your Parents or Be Sued: Is That Un-American?

Posted on 07/8/2013 by |News, Culture, Sights and Sounds | Comments

Bulletin Today | Home & FamilyBulletin from Wuxi, China: In the first suit filed under the country’s new law requiring adult children to visit their parents “often,” a court ordered a woman to check in on her 77-year-old mother at least twice a month, and on at least two of the country’s big holidays. With our summer vacations in full swing in the United States, we wonder whether a similar “don’t-you-dare-ignore-your-parents” law would fly here? Discussion: Zimmerman Verdict of Not-Guilty: Was Justice Served? Today’s Americans …

Family Affairs: Do Your Kids a Favor

Posted on 06/7/2013 by |AARP Blog Author | Comments

Home & FamilyThis is a guest post by Bart Astor. The other day I saw an ad with the headline, “Do your kids a favor.” It went on to say, “You checked for monsters under her bed, sent her to the best school, and helped her buy her first car. Now, do her one more favor.” That favor involves making plans in advance and communicating your wishes to your children. The ad, for a funeral home, takes a subject people don’t like …