Why Phoning Your Children Just Isn’t Enough

The medium is the message, Marshall McLuhan famously noted. And in a touch screen world, our relationships with our adult children improve with the more communications media we use. While millennials enjoy chatting on the phone or Skype, they also want parents to “lurk” on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and other social media so we can follow (not intrusively, though) their lives. That’s the finding of a study by University of Kansas doctoral student Jennifer Schon. “We found that young adults …

Some Tips on Career Coaching Your Millennial

Many of our adult children face a daunting job outlook. The post-recession recovery has been particularly difficult for young adults who have experienced double-digit unemployment rates for more than 70 consecutive months, according to The Young Invincibles, a think tank in Washington, D.C. Many adult children, unemployed or stalled in go-nowhere jobs, call on us for advice. In search of some constructive ideas (and a cheat sheet for our career coaching), we found The Bigs, a book that reveals “The …

Millennials Continue to Struggle for Success

Part of the promise of the American Dream is that each generation will do better than the last. Has that happened with our adult children, the millennials? Well, “yes and no,” reports the U.S. Census Bureau. Our children are better educated as a generation, yet more are living in poverty and they have lower rates of employment.  “Young Adults, Then and Now,” released last week by the Census Bureau, examines the nation’s current 73 million young adults, 18 to 34 …

Are Your Kids Too Old for Gifts?

Between Black Friday and Cyber Monday, it’s impossible to get away from the message that we should be making a list and checking it twice. We wondered if adult children ever age out of the gift list. Not really, according to a very random survey among boomer women, both online and at a local gym. “You’re never too old for gifts from parents,” said a 25-year-old trainer who overheard the discussion. “At least I hope not!” Most moms surveyed, however, …

How to Keep a Family Feud off the Turkey Day Menu

In Norman Rockwell’s familiar Thanksgiving fantasy, Grandma presents a glistening turkey to a happy, multigenerational family. Cut to real life: Disasters range from a firebombed deep-fried turkey to soggy pumpkin pie. And that’s just the food! Unlike the Rockwell tableau, some dinner table conversation more closely resembles the family fireworks in August: Osage County. Thanksgiving can come to mean “family, food, football and feuds,” says Helen Oxenberg, an advice columnist and social worker. >> 10 Tips for Caregivers During the …

Millennials Need Parents to Talk About Long-Term Plans

Religion, sex, politics and money rank as taboo topics for polite conversation, perhaps avoided with our adult children, too. But money should be on the table for the simple reason that our financial situation often affects our kids as we age. A reminder of that comes in an honest and heartfelt column by Yahoo financial adviser Mandi Woodruff about her parents. She writes: “These days, I find myself worrying far more about their financial futures than I do my own. …