Sibling Squabbles Over Mom? 7 Tips for Getting Along

Relationships with siblings can be solid and fulfilling, yet when there are issues regarding aging parents, even the sweetest situations can turn strained or worse. Hot-button issues are almost always around money (your parents’, caregiving expenses and who pays), family possessions, Mom and Dad’s independence and safety, living arrangements or medical decisions. You know what they say about too many cooks in the kitchen…. Or not enough. Your brother and sister might be delighted to leave the caregiving to you. …

Visit Your Parents or Be Sued: Is That Un-American?

Bulletin from Wuxi, China: In the first suit filed under the country’s new law requiring adult children to visit their parents “often,” a court ordered a woman to check in on her 77-year-old mother at least twice a month, and on at least two of the country’s big holidays. With our summer vacations in full swing in the United States, we wonder whether a similar “don’t-you-dare-ignore-your-parents” law would fly here? Discussion: Zimmerman Verdict of Not-Guilty: Was Justice Served? Today’s Americans …

Family Affairs: Do Your Kids a Favor

This is a guest post by Bart Astor. The other day I saw an ad with the headline, “Do your kids a favor.” It went on to say, “You checked for monsters under her bed, sent her to the best school, and helped her buy her first car. Now, do her one more favor.” That favor involves making plans in advance and communicating your wishes to your children. The ad, for a funeral home, takes a subject people don’t like …

Who Will Be Your Caregiver? I Know Who Won’t Be Mine

I usually write about other people, but indulge me a minute. I have been a long-distance family caregiver for 12 years straight (father, mother, mother-in-law) and in the future, I will likely need and want a family caregiver myself. My three kids are spread out across the country (Florida, California, New York), but I thought not for long. For the last year, my son and his wife have said they planned to move to Boston from the West Coast. (They …

Bank Of Dad A Boon For Adult Kids

Boomer moms may talk to their adult kids more about money matters but dads are more willing to dig into their wallets and hand out the cash. The Bank of Dad comes to the rescue more than mom when it involves helping their grown kids: – Buy a car  (58 percent versus 48 percent) – Co-sign a loan or lease agreement (42 percent versus 32 percent) – Pay for car insurance (51 percent versus 43 percent) – Help with car …

The Takeaway: ‘Boomerang’ Kids Aren’t Slackers, They Just Face New Route to Adulthood

For young adults, could moving back in with mom and dad be a good career move? That’s the argument from Washington Post writer Steven Mintz, who calls for an end to the idea that 20-somethings living with parents (the so-called “boomerang” kids, who fly from the next only to come crashing back in again) are only doing it for the free laundry.