Tips for Multigenerational Living

I was pleased to be included as an expert in a recent NBC Nightly News three-part series on caregiving. The series culminated in a segment in which I was interviewed about multigenerational living. After many years of working with multigenerational families, and now that I, too, live in a multigenerational household with my parents and their live-in caregiver, I’ve learned a lot. Here’s a roundup of my tips for those of you in similar situations – or those of you …

Tips for Difficult Family Conversations

In the course of caring for our aging loved ones many family members must have difficult conversations around decisions and changes – whether they be about driving, living situations, health care, financial or care and support issues. Here are some of my tips for approaching these conversations, as well as my Taking Care with Amy Goyer video (above) on the topic. Talk early and often. The more you’ve discussed and planned for the future, the easier it will be when it is time to …

He Has Alzheimer’s, Now What? Part 2

In Part 1 of this two-part post I recently shared a question sent to me from a Twitter follower, @Jason_Bournesm, whose grandfather has Alzheimer’s disease. Jason wanted ideas for how to help his grandfather. Here is Part 2 – more ideas for how to interact with your loved ones when they have Alzheimer’s disease or other forms of dementia: Use familiar photos. Jason shared that he was thinking of creating a special photo album for his grandparents. Great idea! Meaningful …

He Has Alzheimer’s, Now What? Pt. 1

A Twitter follower of mine, @Jason_Bournesm, tweeted me a question the other day about his grandfather who has Alzheimer’s disease: “@AmyGoyer my grandfather has #Alzheimers. how can I help him? I’m not able to do much physically. He doesn’t remember much at all #sad“ Jason was born with spina bifida. While his physical challenges may limit some activities, I told him he has a lot to offer his grandfather! Grandchildren of all ages have a special love and energy to …

From Grief to Wellness: Amy Voelker Wins a Fitness Makeover

Two years ago, Amy Voelker, 50, and her husband were enjoying the fruits of 20 years of marriage. Her two stepsons were married with kids. Her youngest son was doing well in his first year of college. Then tragedy struck this family when a drunk driver broadsided the car, instantly killing her husband and all three sons. After a lengthy trial for the drunk driver, Amy was at a turning point. “I was trying to figure out my future; I …

Financial Makeover Helps One Woman Plan an Independent Future

More than 20 years ago, Celia Nathan’s mother became very depressed. As she was flying from Maryland to Savannah, Ga. to see her mother, Celia read a book a friend had given her about depression. The book described recreation therapy and how it helped those with depression. Celia, always an active person, said she was immediately hooked. “I thought here’s a profession where you’re helping people and also involves recreation!” she told me recently. So she kept exploring the field and …