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Losing Mom: The Void That Can’t Be Filled

Posted on 10/31/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt is with an impossibly heavy heart that I write this post. Patricia Ann Stutz Goyer, passed on Oct. 11 after a brief and sudden illness. To many she was friend, mentor, teacher, director, aunt, sister, wife … to me she was Mom, and she has been the inspiration for so much of my work and writing over the past four years. Mom was a remarkable woman. She grew up in Indiana, salutatorian of her high school graduating class. She …

8 Ways That Grandparents Really Rock!

Posted on 09/6/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingThis Sunday is National Grandparents Day and to celebrate, I’ve compiled a list of the eight reasons I think grandparents are beyond fabulous: They’re grand role models. This generation of grandparents rocks, but not in a chair on the front porch. Today’s Grandma and Grandpa live more active, interesting lives than any generation before. They’ve been there, done that — and they’ve brought the grandkids T-shirts to prove it. Their values, skills and life experience make them people to look up …

More Grandparents Care for Grandkids, New Report Finds

Posted on 09/5/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

Bulletin TodayGrandma’s house isn’t only a great place to visit. For a growing number of children, it’s a great place to move in during bad economic times. A new report from the Pew Research Center, “At Grandmother’s House We Stay”, found that grandparents were the primary caregivers for more than 3 million children in 2011, a 20 percent increase from a decade earlier. According to Pew, those numbers surged between 2007 and 2009, in the midst of the Great Recession. Contest: …

Building Your Caregiving Team

Posted on 08/12/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingAs a caregiver, I have had many “aha!” moments. The following excerpt from my upcoming book, AARP’s Juggling Work and Caregiving (available November 2013) describes one of those moments when I realized I needed to build up my caregiving team: Eight months after I’d relocated to Phoenix to help my parents, I found myself frozen, unable to drag myself out of bed and face my to-do list. I was emotionally exhausted and utterly overwhelmed. I leaned out of bed far enough to …

5 Tips for Caregivers: Take a Break!

Posted on 07/10/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingA colleague recently cautioned me about using the term “respite” because she thought people wouldn’t know its meaning. I found this ironic, because I actually believe it’s more likely that most of us don’t know how it feels rather than what it means in terms of getting a break from caring for family and friends. We rarely get to experience time completely away from the responsibility and stress of caregiving. That’s why I feel so lucky to have recently returned …

Helping Older Loved Ones Cope With Disaster

Posted on 06/5/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIn a recent conversation with the AARP Oklahoma state director, Sean Voskuhl, about the tornadoes in Moore, Okla., and throughout the state, I related my concerns about the older adults and their caregivers affected by the disasters. “In a matter of minutes, thousands of lives were changed forever as a result of the tornadoes that hit Oklahoma in May. The path of destruction and loss of life left by these storms has been heartbreaking,” he told me. “We remember the lost, pray for the …