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Different Kinds of Retirement Benefits

Posted on 01/9/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Relationships | Your LifeQ: I’m a 65-year-young woman and had been without sex and a relationship for four years. I have met a 61-year-old man and and we have been seeing each other for six months. The sex we have is something I dreamed about. I call him my sex therapist. He has introduced me to “toys” and oral sex, among other wonderful experiences. Is this normal at this time in my life, or do I need some help? We are seeing each …

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Posted on 12/3/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Relationships | Your LifeQ: I have been dating a man for roughly 11/2 years. A few months ago I told him I loved him. He said it too, but only in response to me having said it. I noticed that that was the only time he would say it, so I stopped saying it with the hope that he would notice and eventually ask why. He never did and he also never told me he loved me first. I finally talked to him …

My Husband Is Online Dating. What Do I Do?

Posted on 11/30/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: I recently discovered that my husband is on several online dating sites. When I confronted him, he said he was sorry and claimed he wasn’t necessarily trying to “hook up” with anyone. But his profiles on the sites state that he was trying to connect with people for those reasons. I have not found any real proof that he hooked up with anyone else, but he is such a liar I don’t know what to believe! If we didn’t …

Staying Married for the Sake of the Grandkid

Posted on 11/27/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: My husband and I, both 65, have been married for nearly 45 years. After 22 years of marriage, he had an affair. We worked through it, with intense counseling, and he promised it would never happen again. After 38 years of marriage, he did it again. Not much counseling after that one, as he really was not interested. We have remained married, but it has been a sexless marriage for well over two years. We are now involved with …

I Don’t Want to Have Sex With My Overweight Wife

Posted on 11/20/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: I’m a man who has been married for 34 years. I love my soulmate, but I don’t have it in me anymore to make love to her when she’s overweight and has been for some time. I just can’t do it anymore. And now I feel depressed with no romance. I have no desire for sex anymore and I know my wife is aware. I love her and feel as if there is nothing left but to wait until …

Sex: Is it weird when…

Posted on 11/12/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Relationships | Your LifeQ: What does it mean when a guy goes mentally numb and has an “out-of-body” experience of sorts during sex? In the few times we have had sex, the guy I’m trying to be with has mentioned this happening. He says it is the best feeling in the world but also kind of scary, and that he has had this feeling only one other time out of all the relationships he has had. He told me not to worry about …