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The Wrong Kind of Dirty

Posted on 11/12/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Personal Health | Relationships | Your LifeQ: I am 58 and have a deep connection with a man I’ve known for about a year. We get along fabulously and I believe most women would think he is a great catch; I definitely do. My problem stems from his questionable hygiene. His work requires some extreme conditions as well as some dirty jobs. I’m not sure he realizes this hygiene issue has spilled into his everyday life and I don’t know how or if I should broach …

I’m Lonely In My Marriage

Posted on 11/5/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Personal Health | RelationshipsQ: I’m married and lonely. My husband, age 68, has his own business, works six days a week with 10- to 12-hour days, and is recovering from prostate cancer surgery, with a low testosterone count. Meanwhile, I’m home alone every day by myself with no friends nearby or opportunities to make them (we live in a vacation community with no permanent residents). The one day a week hubby does take off, he sleeps until noon or later to catch up …

A Tricky Love Triangle?

Posted on 10/26/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: I recently ran into an old lover who is now a widower. I was once very much in love with this man and after seeing him again, I find that I am still strongly attracted to him. I am married, my spouse is impotent and I am a very sexual person who needs touching and affection to feel wanted and loved. My spouse won’t even hold my hand when I beg! I am torn. I still respect my spouse, …

Are You Even Listening to Me?

Posted on 10/24/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: Why is it that when a couple is trying to communicate, the conversation can get lost when one spouse gets upset before the problem is resolved? The conversation then becomes about arguing and isn’t productive. How does one fix this? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: It’s a great question. Not everyone says what they mean or means what they say — and it costs a lot of extra heartache. There is a style of communicating that you may want to look …

Dating Again: The Re-Entry Checklist

Posted on 09/22/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsI had the pleasure of talking to AARP members about being single and dating after 50 at their annual member event Life@50+ in New Orleans. Here are some of the key points from our discussion: When you want to date again, first consider the non-online possibilities: friends of friends, single events, hobby groups, places of worship, etc. Go to busy places to find a potential mate, such as airports, concerts, political groups, volunteering opportunities. Don’t be afraid to chat up people! …

Online Dating Doldrums? Find Yourself a Wingwoman

Posted on 08/1/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | RelationshipsQ: Dating older men can be disillusioning. Why are men on singles websites are disingenuous? The ones I’ve met seem to be so needy: They talk about past, failed relationships; some talk about weekend plans like playing golf (both days); some I’ve learned later are still married; and don’t forget about the one that has an old girlfriend living with him because she is indigent and he’s grown fond of her grandchildren. Don’t even ask me about the one that …