4 Types of Men You Shouldn’t Date

My friend’s grandfather drove a fruit cart in the Bronx in the early 1900s. My friend was very proud of his family’s fruitful legacy and, in particular, his own fruit-picking skills at the grocery store. He would carefully look at the fruit, smell the fruit, squeeze the fruit and sometimes even shake the fruit. He was determined to select the very best fruit available. Dating is like picking fruit: I look, I smell and sometimes even touch and taste. I might …

Why I’m Thankful About Dating

Interview 100 people currently engaged in dating and I suspect the majority would say, “This sucks.” They’d complain about the games the opposite gender plays with their head, body and soul. They’d complain about the dishonesty permeating the process. And they’d complain about the time and expense committed to spinning wheels and not finding true love. Having participated in online dating, on and off, for nine months, I’d agree with these sentiments. I’d also add inappropriate online behavior to the …

How Men Date — and Women Should, Too

OK, ladies, let’s look at specific male dating behaviors and identify which ones might work for us, too. Here are a few of my favorites from the book How to Date Like a Man by Myreah Moore. A guilt-free numbers game. Men feel completely guilt-free while dating women simultaneously. Dating multiple men left me feeling a little guilty. But then came the man who, on just our second date, said he quit an online dating site after meeting me and wanted me to meet …

Should I Lower My Dating Expectations?

It took a few weeks, but Mr. 99% finally called. He’s the elusive man with whom I shared 99 percent of the same answers for hundreds of questions on the OkCupid online dating site. We “conversed” for an hour. Although he was interesting, he also did 99 percent of the talking. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I followed up by e-mail on the OkCupid site. No response. Then I left a phone message. Another week has passed …

A Potential Mate: How to Know Him When You See Him

The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome. As a “dreamer soul” sign in Altea’s system, my energy flow is central, which means I’m supposed to get along with introverts, extroverts and other centralists. It’s like having type AB positive blood type, the universal recipient: I’m receptive to everybody. A new you within reach — Visit …

Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …