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Caring for our Spouses

Posted on 04/14/2014 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

PoliticsMeet the Mitchems and the Shapards: Two Oklahoma families who would benefit greatly from the Caregiver Advise, Record, Enable (CARE) Act. Cheryl Mitchem cares for her husband, Alphus, who battles brain cancer.  She has help from her adult daughter, Kristin – but like so many of the 42 million family caregivers nationwide – Cheryl struggles with the complex medical and nursing tasks she must perform for Alphus.  She has had no training to carry out these duties – like managing …

5 Tips for Caregivers: Take a Break!

Posted on 07/10/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingA colleague recently cautioned me about using the term “respite” because she thought people wouldn’t know its meaning. I found this ironic, because I actually believe it’s more likely that most of us don’t know how it feels rather than what it means in terms of getting a break from caring for family and friends. We rarely get to experience time completely away from the responsibility and stress of caregiving. That’s why I feel so lucky to have recently returned …

Parking Lot Sob-fest: Cleansed by Tears and Renewed by Chocolate

Posted on 09/21/2012 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingI pulled into the Wal-Mart parking lot, slammed the shift into park and began to sob. The cries came from deep in my belly and slowly worked their way up to my tear-strewn face, emerging messily in a volcanic eruption of tears and snot. Yuck. No tissues in the car, of course. I tried to stop, but it wasn’t happening. And I got loud. I noticed a few people looking at me but I didn’t give a whip. Ahh … …