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Caregiving and Learning to Breathe

Posted on 02/8/2013 by |Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingOne goes through so many emotions as a caregiver- fear, sadness, anger, joy, surprise, just to name a few- but the one emotion I probably felt most often was simply, overwhelmed. That single feeling of being out of control and always on my guard amplified whatever other emotion I might have been experiencing at any given time. It wasn’t really until Dad already had spent six months or so in his nearby nursing home that I finally learned how to …

When the Caregiver Doesn’t Take Care of Herself

Posted on 08/30/2012 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt’s a subtle thing. It happens bit by bit…it creeps up and then one time too many of lifting the wheelchair into the trunk and—BAM! –it smacks me flat, usually at the most inopportune time.That’s what happened to me last week when my back screamed, “Stop!”  I have a history of back problems, but my back hasn’t flared up this badly in about 10 years. The timing couldn’t be worse.  We are packing up my parents’ senior living apartment and …

Dangerous Caregivers: Few Agencies Screen Workers

Posted on 07/11/2012 by |Personal Health and Well-being | Comments

Bulletin Today | CaregivingThe person you hire from an agency to take care of your ailing, aging family member — shouldn’t that caregiver have passed a federal background check? Or drug testing? Or be screened for skills and training? Unfortunately, the chances are the agency did none of those things. A troubling new national study finds that nearly half of the agencies that send caregivers to help vulnerable seniors do a poor job of recruiting, screening, testing and training the caregivers they hire. …

4 Tough Decisions I’ve Made as a Caregiver

Posted on 03/27/2012 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingAs a caregiver, I make a hundred decisions on my parents’ behalf every week. Whenever possible, I make decisions with my parents – but many times I am forced to make decisions for them. Some are easier than others. Sometimes I take it in stride…other days the stress piles up and an implosion is inevitable. Some decisions are made quickly in the spur of the moment – like deciding whether to take time to stop and take a walk with Dad and Jackson, …

Widowers Stick Together

Posted on 02/21/2012 by |Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingWhen you’re a man grieving the death of your wife or partner, casseroles just don’t cut it.  They have to deal with their loss and adjust to a different life. In the old days, if you were a guy, you toughed it out by yourself until you “got over” it. Women more typically vent and share their anguish through established venues like support groups. Sure, men can attend too, but often don’t return, finding themselves outnumbered by females and uncomfortable …

Part II: A Caregiver’s Christmas Wish List

Posted on 12/14/2011 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingWhile the intangibles in my Caregiver’s Christmas Wish List post last week are at the top of my list, there are, of course, some pretty darn tangible items I’d also love to have as a caregiver! Here is a sampling of items most caregivers yearn for, Santa Baby, so hurry down the chimney with these goodies: 1. A new car (might as well start big!): OK I’d love to have a new little red sports car, but what I need desperately …