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Losing Mom: The Void That Can’t Be Filled

Posted on 10/31/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt is with an impossibly heavy heart that I write this post. Patricia Ann Stutz Goyer, passed on Oct. 11 after a brief and sudden illness. To many she was friend, mentor, teacher, director, aunt, sister, wife … to me she was Mom, and she has been the inspiration for so much of my work and writing over the past four years. Mom was a remarkable woman. She grew up in Indiana, salutatorian of her high school graduating class. She …

Caregivers Are Liberators

Posted on 10/31/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Caregivingby Paul Tobin “You need a caregiver.” These are words that no person wants to hear, much less admit to themselves. Most of us are fiercely protective of our independence and the prospect of requiring assistance from a caregiver means a loss of freedom. The feeling is even greater in the military and veteran communities, where asking for help is perceived as weakness or burdensome on others. I shared that view when I began needing assistance with everyday tasks. Now, …

Planning for Your Home’s Future

Posted on 10/17/2013 by | AARP Education & Outreach | Comments

Great PlacesMarine Sgt. Adam Kisielewski has his pilot’s license, takes classes at a nearby college and loves to grill. Like most of us, Kisielewski considered his home his haven for safety and independence. When Kisielewksi lost his left arm (at the shoulder) and his right leg (below the knee) while deployed near Fallujah, Iraq, his desire for safety and independence intensified. But finding a path to meet those goals had become more challenging. Unlike Sgt. Kisielewski, most of us have the …

Caregiving Across State Lines

Posted on 10/14/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

PoliticsMeet Lynn Achter, a Wyoming resident, who was granted guardianship of her brother in Oregon after he suffered a brain injury in a motorcycle accident.   From a thousand miles away, she managed his money, made medical decisions, and coordinated the resources and services he needed. The distance made Lynn’s caregiving responsibilities even more difficult, and she decided to move her brother to Wyoming.  That’s when Lynn discovered that Wyoming did not have a uniform guardianship law, and she would have …

One More Thing to Stress About: Midlife Stress and Your Brain

Posted on 10/3/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Brain Health | Bulletin TodayAfter the alarm goes off at 5:45 a.m., each day brings a new set of challenges: deadlines and responsibility at work, AP history homework, French quizzes, soccer carpools, meetings at school, dogs that need to be walked and a hardworking husband who is rarely home before 8 p.m. My mother died in February after a difficult illness, and still I sometimes wake in the middle of the night in grief and panic. Add to that list a new study to …

Who Cares? Boomers Don’t Want to Live With Their Adult Kids, Either

Posted on 10/2/2013 by | Caregiving | Comments

CaregivingGuess what Millennials? Your boomer parents aren’t dying to move in with you if they need care in retirement. That’s one of the takeaways of a new study. (With three young adult children, that’s what first caught my eye!) Bankers Life and Casualty Company’s Center for a Secure Retirement surveyed 1,299 Americans ages 49-67 (boomers) with an annual income of $25,000-$75,000 to find out their views on their future as recipients of care. In the study, boomers say that in the past …