If Only I Could Be Dr. Frankenstein

If you’re dating, try to compile “must-have” and “deal-breaker” lists to help screen prospective dates. The book Dating After 50 For Dummies by AARP sex and relationships expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz was useful in finalizing my wish list. The longer you’re in the dating market — and it does feel like a market sometimes — might a “must-have” become a “would be nice to have”? And does the deal-breaker list get shorter as well? A new you within reach — …

Would My Date Turn Out Heavenly or Disheartening?

He wore a black shirt and white shorts. I wore a white shirt with black capris. We met at the beach concession stand, just as the Super-Harvest Blood Moon fully eclipsed. It was dark, but our white garments divulged our identities. He was Mr. 97%, the man whose answers to hundreds of questions on the online dating site OkCupid matched 97 percent of mine. Earlier that day, he wrote that he would like to talk on the phone to get better acquainted. I suggested we …

A Potential Mate: How to Know Him When You See Him

The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome. As a “dreamer soul” sign in Altea’s system, my energy flow is central, which means I’m supposed to get along with introverts, extroverts and other centralists. It’s like having type AB positive blood type, the universal recipient: I’m receptive to everybody. A new you within reach — Visit …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …