Goodbye Ageism! Shifting an Old Stereotype

I’m positive: You couldn’t pick a better place to have an International Conference on Positive Aging this week (or any week). It isn’t just because it’s in Florida, but also because it’s specifically in Sarasota County, which happens to have the highest percentage of people age 85-plus in the nation. The event’s host, the Sarasota  non-profit foundation Institute for the Ages, recruits and engages older people and organizations to conduct research on aging issues, connecting companies with their target audience, Sarasota …

Marriage Therapy for the Price of a Movie Ticket

By Susan Hagen, University of Rochester A new study finds that watching and discussing movies about relationships is as effective in lowering divorce rates as other, more intensive early marriage counseling programs. Discussing five movies about relationships over a month could cut the three-year divorce rate for newlyweds in half, researchers report. The study, involving 174 couples, is the first long-term investigation to compare different types of early marriage intervention programs. The findings show that an inexpensive, fun, and relatively …

Divorce, American Style

We barely began the new year before celebrity divorces began making headlines. Last week the 1970s pop duo Captain & Tennille (“Love Will Keep Us Together”) announced the end of their 39-year marriage. That came a week after former New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and his wife, Silda Wall Spitzer, filed for divorce. No surprise there. Gawking at celebrity divorces is nothing new, though there sure are more of them – especially for the headliners who have been around for …

What’s the Secret to a Happy, Long-Term Marriage?

What does it take to keep a marriage happy, vibrant and enduring? I’m asked that question all the time. And while I think couples all have their own unique recipes for success, I’ve noticed that most include these five essential ingredients: 1. The ability to apologize  Every person in every marriage makes mistakes. Some big, some small, but always some you wish you could un-do. That’s only human, but happy couples admit to their mistakes – and apologize. Just as important is …

Relationship Fix: Spend More Time Apart

Since my book The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts’ Guide to Style, Sex, Health,  Money and More, was published, I have been getting emails from people asking for advice on all kinds of topics, from eating well to starting a running program to dealing with a spouse who cheats. One question I hear often is this: What happens when couples spend too much time together and it puts a damper on their relationship? This can be especially true for …

So Do You Come Here Often?

I was in an L.A. restaurant the other evening with a circular bar big enough to accommodate the full crew of an aircraft carrier when I noticed Shorty and his girlfriend. I figured it wasn’t his wife because Shorty had to be in his 70s and she was maybe 32, and he was nuzzling her. Men of Shorty’s age rarely nuzzle their wives in public and they nuzzle them at home only if they want something. Shorty caught my attention …