Divorce, American Style

We barely began the new year before celebrity divorces began making headlines. Last week the 1970s pop duo Captain & Tennille (“Love Will Keep Us Together”) announced the end of their 39-year marriage. That came a week after former New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and his wife, Silda Wall Spitzer, filed for divorce. No surprise there. Gawking at celebrity divorces is nothing new, though there sure are more of them – especially for the headliners who have been around for …

What’s the Secret to a Happy, Long-Term Marriage?

What does it take to keep a marriage happy, vibrant and enduring? I’m asked that question all the time. And while I think couples all have their own unique recipes for success, I’ve noticed that most include these five essential ingredients: 1. The ability to apologize  Every person in every marriage makes mistakes. Some big, some small, but always some you wish you could un-do. That’s only human, but happy couples admit to their mistakes – and apologize. Just as important is …

Relationship Fix: Spend More Time Apart

Since my book The Best of Everything After 50: The Experts’ Guide to Style, Sex, Health,  Money and More, was published, I have been getting emails from people asking for advice on all kinds of topics, from eating well to starting a running program to dealing with a spouse who cheats. One question I hear often is this: What happens when couples spend too much time together and it puts a damper on their relationship? This can be especially true for …

So Do You Come Here Often?

I was in an L.A. restaurant the other evening with a circular bar big enough to accommodate the full crew of an aircraft carrier when I noticed Shorty and his girlfriend. I figured it wasn’t his wife because Shorty had to be in his 70s and she was maybe 32, and he was nuzzling her. Men of Shorty’s age rarely nuzzle their wives in public and they nuzzle them at home only if they want something. Shorty caught my attention …

Retirees, Do You Shop Differently?

I’ve been asking a lot of retirees recently, “Now that you’re retired, have your shopping habits changed and, if so, how?” My mom says that she and my dad have been shopping together more. “I always did all of the shopping, but now we almost always do it together,” she said. “It’s definitely been a change for both of us, but overall it’s worked out pretty well and we probably spend less because of it. It helps to have an extra pair of …

“Not Tonight, Honey…I’m Unemployed”

Claiming a headache used to be the nice way to tell your other half that you weren’t in the mood. When one of you is unemployed, it can affect far more than your bank balance. Everything from your self-esteem to your sex life can take a hit. “Financial worries tend to seep into all parts of a couple’s life together,” says Dr. Pepper Schwartz, a sexologist at the University of Washington in Seattle and AARP’s love and sex expert. “It’s …