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So You Want to Start Dating Again…

Posted on 04/26/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Relationships | Your LifeQ: How do you enter the dating world at my age? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: First, you can tell friends you really want to start dating again, and see if they know anyone suitable. Sometimes they do! More often, however, they do not, and then you have two choices: Start going to lots of community events and organizations in hopes of meeting new men or women who might also be single and looking for companionship, or going online. You can try …

Online Dating: How About We … Start Again

Posted on 04/9/2013 by Becky Gillan | AARP Blog Author | Comments

AARP Research | Relationships | Your LifeI suspect most people can remember their first kiss, first date, first love — and have even rated those experiences versus subsequent encounters with rose-colored glasses. How many of us have ended up marrying or living for an extended period with their first love? Or maybe you split up and haven’t heard from them since. I married my high school boyfriend, but not until 20 years after graduation. The marriage did not last (over 60% of second marriages end in …

Different Kinds of Retirement Benefits

Posted on 01/9/2013 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Home & Family | Relationships | Your LifeQ: I’m a 65-year-young woman and had been without sex and a relationship for four years. I have met a 61-year-old man and and we have been seeing each other for six months. The sex we have is something I dreamed about. I call him my sex therapist. He has introduced me to “toys” and oral sex, among other wonderful experiences. Is this normal at this time in my life, or do I need some help? We are seeing each …

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Posted on 12/3/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

Relationships | Your LifeQ: I have been dating a man for roughly 11/2 years. A few months ago I told him I loved him. He said it too, but only in response to me having said it. I noticed that that was the only time he would say it, so I stopped saying it with the hope that he would notice and eventually ask why. He never did and he also never told me he loved me first. I finally talked to him …

A Dating Story: A Widow’s First Time Out

Posted on 09/25/2012 by Tammy Gordon | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Relationships | Your LifeFelice Shapiro is a writer, entrepreneur, and publisher as well as the founder of Better After 50, a weekly online magazine. In addition to being a teacher and avid runner, hiker, and yogi, she is an AARP contributor. After my husband died, I remembered hearing that, according to the Jewish religion, a widow was required to mourn for 30 days and then she could “get back out there.” And, what’s more, the brother–in-law was expected to marry his brother’s widow …Oh …

Dating Again: The Re-Entry Checklist

Posted on 09/22/2012 by Dr. Pepper Schwartz | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsI had the pleasure of talking to AARP members about being single and dating after 50 at their annual member event Life@50+ in New Orleans. Here are some of the key points from our discussion: When you want to date again, first consider the non-online possibilities: friends of friends, single events, hobby groups, places of worship, etc. Go to busy places to find a potential mate, such as airports, concerts, political groups, volunteering opportunities. Don’t be afraid to chat up people! …