If Only I Could Be Dr. Frankenstein

If you’re dating, try to compile “must-have” and “deal-breaker” lists to help screen prospective dates. The book Dating After 50 For Dummies by AARP sex and relationships expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz was useful in finalizing my wish list. The longer you’re in the dating market — and it does feel like a market sometimes — might a “must-have” become a “would be nice to have”? And does the deal-breaker list get shorter as well? A new you within reach — …

My First Kiss

On my first date since becoming single again, the guy tried to swoop down and kiss me. I counter-swooped out of range. I wondered, why do total strangers think I should press my lips against theirs? The second man I went out with kissed me on the cheek. I figured that was OK, though my preference is to shake hands hello and goodbye on the first date. When I shook hands with my third date, he said, “Oh, the old …

Howling at a New Full Moon

The man I am about to be intimate with was in diapers when I began having physical relations with men. Although I have 40 years of experience, I haven’t been with many men, so it’s a big deal when I decide to take this step with a new lover. It is not easy being with one man for decades and getting into bed with someone new, especially someone much younger. There are many complicated and contradictory emotions. It’s exciting and …

How to Sign Up With Top Dating Sites

It is a jungle out there, at least in the world of online dating sites. According to Online Dating Magazine, there are some 2,500 online dating sites in the U.S. and more than 5,000 online dating services worldwide. Which to choose? In some ways you’re trying to find the right site and the right man. At least monogamy isn’t an issue with a dating site; you can engage with more than one at a time. Among the leading sites are …

The New Dating Game — Millennial Style

When my friend was in her 20s, single and living in New York City, she called her suburban mother a few times a week. Often the conversation started with her mom asking, “So?” That was shorthand for “Did you meet any eligible young men?” My friend eventually did meet a guy, and 33 years later they are still happily married. These days we might be reluctant to ask the same question of our millennial children because we might not want …

50 Shades of Valentine’s Day

Normally, I’m a sucker for the sweetly prepackaged romance of Valentine’s Day. But with Fifty Shades of Grey hitting your multiplex on Feb. 13, our pink-cheeked flying cherubs have dropped their beatific smiles for lecherous leers. Bedroom toys and racy lingerie are doing a brisk business at major department stores and online. Many couples still mark the day traditionally — dinner at a dark bistro, some hanky-panky in the dark at home — but more women age 50-plus are single, …