So Do You Come Here Often?

I was in an L.A. restaurant the other evening with a circular bar big enough to accommodate the full crew of an aircraft carrier when I noticed Shorty and his girlfriend. I figured it wasn’t his wife because Shorty had to be in his 70s and she was maybe 32, and he was nuzzling her. Men of Shorty’s age rarely nuzzle their wives in public and they nuzzle them at home only if they want something. Shorty caught my attention …

Dealing with COPD and Dating

Q: I just turned 60, have been divorced for seven years and have not dated anyone. I am really lonely. I work full time and have chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), which sometimes requires me to use oxygen. I am scared and embarrassed about possibly having to use oxygen on a date. Since being diagnosed, I have lost all my self-confidence.  How might I start the dating process? If think if I put my COPD out there, I won’t be …

Dating for Introverts: What Can I Do?

Q: I’d like to slowly establish a romantic relationship. I have been in treatment for anxiety, depression and bipolar disorder for 21 years. I have joined interest groups and tried online dating sites, but haven’t found too many people who are reasonably intelligent (I’m in the top 5 percent), don’t want to travel, enjoy deep conversation, and can accept a partner who will never lose the “baggage,” which can be expected with chronic mental illness. I am introverted and like …

Online Dating: Showing My (Real) Age

Q: I am a 78-year-old widow, intelligent, friendly, self-sufficient, well-groomed and well-read. My problem is how to word my online profile so that men who are slightly younger will not write me off. I am in excellent health and interested in everything around me. I can still do everything I did when I was 50. I would be a good fit for the right man 10 years my junior, but men don’t seem to consider this possibility, and there don’t …

Finding the Healthy Sexual Aid for Him

Q: My wife doesn’t want me to take prescription sexual aids, such as Viagra, because she fears I’ll have a heart attack or stroke. It worked well for me, the first and only time I got to use it. In her defense, I did suffer a heart attack at 38. My question is, are there alternative over-the-counter drugs or natural herbs that can help? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Have you talked to a doctor about this? I would at least get …

Dealing With the Effects of a Pregnancy

Q: I am a 58-year-old female with a medical problem: a rectal leakage, due to my last pregnancy. I am not in a relationship, only because I am afraid that this issue will cause a problem in my sex life. What shall I do? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Go see a doctor – a gynecologist or specialist in intestinal issues would be preferred. It seems to me that there should be a procedure that would be able to stop the leakage. …