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I’m Just Not Interested

Posted on 08/5/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I just read your article about having a celibate marriage, and my marriage has turned into that. Although it’s not due to any type of punishment — it’s just that I have lost all interest in sex. I love my spouse; he loves me. There are no problems, no stresses. We get along great, but I just can’t find the interest. My doctor said it was probably stress but I am retired and don’t have any. I’ve talked to …

Men Don’t Only Want Sex. They Want Friendship, Too

Posted on 08/2/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I have been divorced for almost three years and am having difficulty meeting men. Most of the guys I encounter just want sex. I want more: respect, friendship, kindness, mutual enjoyment. Any suggestions? After 29 1/2 years of an abusive marriage, I would like to think there are some nice men out there. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: There are definitely some nice men out there. Of course, your life has been colored by an abusive marriage and you have to …

Two Words: Sex Therapist

Posted on 07/31/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: The woman I married two years ago doesn’t really know how to make love to me. I am 68, and my wife is 57. I still have the drive to have sex, but she is not used to initiating the first move. She doesn’t like to kiss and isn’t romantic at all. When I listen to soft music to try and get things started, she asks me why I play sad music. I have been patient with her as …

Online Dating Isn’t Working. Now What?

Posted on 07/29/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I have been a widow for about three years.  (I live with my son, a highly functional autistic man who is independent in most areas but needs my help financially.) I’d love to find a new romantic relationship again, but fear I am destined to be alone. I’ve tried dating sites and have met many men, but we only go out on a date or two and that’s it. Either I don’t feel any connection, which is not very often, or they …

Family Ties

Posted on 07/24/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: How (and when) do I tell a dating partner about my difficult family situation? I haven’t dated in a long time (I’m 59, never married). This is partly due to being a caregiver — first for my dad, who had a stroke, and now my mom, who is recovering from a stroke, and my brother, who has schizophrenia and is in poor physical health. They do live independently, and with some help from community agencies, I don’t have to …

Encyclopedia of Ethical Failure: Instructive and Funny

Posted on 07/19/2013 by |News, Culture, Sights and Sounds | Comments

Bulletin Today | PoliticsThe Department of Defense doesn’t want to retire employees prematurely because of their moral lapses. To instruct them in right from wrong, DOD compiles the Encyclopedia of Ethical Failure, short object lessons that retell the real-life shortcomings of their own workers, and those from other government agencies. The surprise is that the newly updated compendium can be laugh-out-loud funny. Here are three examples, verbatim, from the latest edition: Employees Fail to Profit from Red Tape Two workers at the Veterans …