Encyclopedia of Ethical Failure: Instructive and Funny

The Department of Defense doesn’t want to retire employees prematurely because of their moral lapses. To instruct them in right from wrong, DOD compiles the Encyclopedia of Ethical Failure, short object lessons that retell the real-life shortcomings of their own workers, and those from other government agencies. The surprise is that the newly updated compendium can be laugh-out-loud funny. Here are three examples, verbatim, from the latest edition: Employees Fail to Profit from Red Tape Two workers at the Veterans …

Dazzle on Date Night: Flirty Styles for Any Age

Coco Chanel famously said, “I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.” For sure, if you’re going on a first date - especially one where kind friends made the introduction, or you’ve only met virtually thanks to the Internet - you will no doubt …

Breaking Up, Boomer Edition

Q: After my wife died three years ago, I reconnected with a woman I’d known in high school. I gave her a ring on Valentine’s Day 2009. Three months later, she died of a massive stroke. That came on the heels of my my father’s death three months earlier. Since then, I have been having extreme bouts of loneliness.  I’m now dating three women, one of whom I especially like. But I’m not sure the feeling is reciprocated. What should I do? I …

The Online Dating Pitch

Q: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

Being Fearless with Love

Q: I met someone on a cruise. I am 58 and he is 59. I’ve been divorced for roughly 20 years; he’s been divorced three years after 30 years of marriage. We have a lot in common and although we live in different states and struggle with the long-distance issue, we’ve been trying to keep in touch weekly. He has invited me to come visit him. I have been out of the game so long I’m nervous about going! Any …

So You Want to Start Dating Again…

Q: How do you enter the dating world at my age? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: First, you can tell friends you really want to start dating again, and see if they know anyone suitable. Sometimes they do! More often, however, they do not, and then you have two choices: Start going to lots of community events and organizations in hopes of meeting new men or women who might also be single and looking for companionship, or going online. You can try …