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Breaking Up, Boomer Edition

Posted on 07/10/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: After my wife died three years ago, I reconnected with a woman I’d known in high school. I gave her a ring on Valentine’s Day 2009. Three months later, she died of a massive stroke. That came on the heels of my my father’s death three months earlier. Since then, I have been having extreme bouts of loneliness.  I’m now dating three women, one of whom I especially like. But I’m not sure the feeling is reciprocated. What should I do? I …

The Online Dating Pitch

Posted on 07/1/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

Being Fearless with Love

Posted on 06/26/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I met someone on a cruise. I am 58 and he is 59. I’ve been divorced for roughly 20 years; he’s been divorced three years after 30 years of marriage. We have a lot in common and although we live in different states and struggle with the long-distance issue, we’ve been trying to keep in touch weekly. He has invited me to come visit him. I have been out of the game so long I’m nervous about going! Any …

So You Want to Start Dating Again…

Posted on 04/26/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: How do you enter the dating world at my age? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: First, you can tell friends you really want to start dating again, and see if they know anyone suitable. Sometimes they do! More often, however, they do not, and then you have two choices: Start going to lots of community events and organizations in hopes of meeting new men or women who might also be single and looking for companionship, or going online. You can try …

Online Dating: How About We … Start Again

Posted on 04/9/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

RelationshipsI suspect most people can remember their first kiss, first date, first love — and have even rated those experiences versus subsequent encounters with rose-colored glasses. How many of us have ended up marrying or living for an extended period with their first love? Or maybe you split up and haven’t heard from them since. I married my high school boyfriend, but not until 20 years after graduation. The marriage did not last (over 60% of second marriages end in …

Different Kinds of Retirement Benefits

Posted on 01/9/2013 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I’m a 65-year-young woman and had been without sex and a relationship for four years. I have met a 61-year-old man and and we have been seeing each other for six months. The sex we have is something I dreamed about. I call him my sex therapist. He has introduced me to “toys” and oral sex, among other wonderful experiences. Is this normal at this time in my life, or do I need some help? We are seeing each …