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It’s Not Easy Being in a Relationship with a Caregiver

Posted on 02/12/2014 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingEditor’s note: We asked Bill Carter, the longtime companion of AARP’s caregiving expert and blogger, Amy Goyer, to write about being in a long-distance relationship with a full-time caregiver. My relationship with Amy began seven years ago. At the time she was a busy professional working in Washington, D.C., and her parents were enjoying their retirement in Phoenix. Since I live in northern Maryland, our relationship had to be a long-distance one from the beginning. However, we thoroughly enjoyed each other’s …

Resolutions poll: Are you keeping your goals?

Posted on 02/6/2014 by |AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeIt’s February of a new year, and for many that means starting to see some results from those January resolutions. And for some others…perhaps it means starting to slip on those January resolutions. How have you guys been doing? I don’t do resolutions myself, and somewhat to my surprise, I am not alone. In fact, I’m in the majority! According to an AARP survey we conducted in December, only 37% of US adults say they set goals at the beginning …

Siblings, Gratitude and Aging Parents

Posted on 01/31/2014 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingWhether you’ve had a lifelong sibling rivalry or been the best of friends, sibling relationships can be very difficult to navigate when caring for an aging parent. I am in contact with many family caregivers, and I often hear about conflict between siblings around caregiving decisions and responsibilities. Some are at such odds that they either don’t communicate or have a great deal of trouble doing so. Others say that a simple expression of appreciation would go a long way …

Wanted: A Family for Christmas

Posted on 12/23/2013 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingChristmas is traditionally a time when families gather. Sure, all families are imperfect; we all have disagreements and conflicts. But for most, the love is still there and holidays are special times. For many, however, there are no good memories of Christmas mornings or good-natured squabbles over holiday plans. There is, essentially, no family. CBS News recently aired this story about Jackie Turner, a student at William Jessup University, near Sacramento, Calif. Jackie was facing another Christmas with no family. …

America’s Next Great Challenge

Posted on 11/22/2013 by |AARP Executive Vice President | Comments

Caregiving | PoliticsIn today’s Washington Post, former Senate Majority Leader Tom Daschle and former Secretary Tommy Thompson made a strong case for a constructive, national dialogue on long-term care. AARP agrees wholeheartedly. Just this week, we joined with The Hill Newspaper to hold a briefing on long-term services and supports. We convened leaders from the federal and state levels to shine a bright light on the possible solutions and innovations that are happening across the nation. >> Visit AARP’s Caregiving Resource Center …

Why I Thanked a Caregiver

Posted on 11/21/2013 by |Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingMy older sister Linda Goyer Lane is part of the “sandwich generation”—people who care for their aging parents while simultaneously supporting children of their own. When my parents began needing 24-hour care about a year and a half ago, Linda stepped up in a big way to help me care for them. She and her two sons (one in high school, one in college) have all made sacrifices as she began traveling to Arizona for a week or two at …