Pop’s Critical Role as Caregiver During Mom’s Brain Surgery

This weekend we all had the opportunity to celebrate our fathers. As I remembered my Pop — a funny, hardworking, unselfish man — I thought about his devotion to my mom, especially during their later lives when he was her primary caregiver. He shouldered huge responsibilities that I think weighed heavily on his mind. I remembered the time, several days before Mom had brain surgery, Pop opened his wallet and handed me a small piece of paper. “It’s the anesthesia …

On Father’s Day, Let’s Show Black Men They Matter

The more I witness the vast gap between how some folks live in this country, the more I am grateful that I grew up in North Philadelphia with a strong father, mother and family. I am grateful for the close-knit group of neighbors, and the values and strength of folks — like my parents — who stared down hard times. And yes, on Father’s Day, I am especially thankful for my dad, the late Eugene Albert Kane Sr., a construction worker …

How to Build a Better Dad

Three marriages — and lots of “empirical dating research” in between — have led me to a conclusion or two about men. OK, make that five conclusions. Not about men in general, but about 50-plus fathers in particular, whom I’ve taxonomized below. With the approach of Father’s Day on June 21— the year’s best opportunity for you to help any pater in your familias deal with age, weight and vanity issues — it’s time to leave the socks-and-tie gifts behind …

4 Pointers for Dads on How to Embrace Their Adult Kids

Too often dads take a back seat to moms, especially when it comes to holidays. A recent survey found that if Father’s Day and Mother’s Day fell on the same Sunday and adult children could celebrate only one, more than three-quarters would opt for mom! Apparently, mom is more deserving of the attention, and children claim to have more in common with her, the survey found. Even when it comes to spending, Father’s Day (this Sunday if you need a …

What’s Dad Worth? $24,103

Sure, dads are priceless. Who else is going to kill flying stinging insects, plug leaky pipes and repair the family car? For all that dad does around the house, Insure.com’s annual Father’s Day Index calculated his value for 2014: He’s worth $24,103, up slightly from last year. Dad’s worth is measured by the typical household tasks he performs and the average wages paid for those duties based on data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Those jobs include plumber at …

Let’s Celebrate Black Fatherhood by Reclaiming the Status of Black Fathers

He is often the most overlooked member of the family. And in American culture, though he is often misrepresented, his role is undeniable. Across the nation, black fathers are coming home from work or seeking work every day. Some are wearing neckties, some coveralls, a company uniform or whatever is required for their occupations. These men are involved in the lives of their children and families, who look up to them, who are inspired and protected by them, and who …