Know the Signs of Child Sexual Abuse

  Sadly, child sexual abuse is in the news once again. In Pennsylvania, trial of former Penn State football coach, JerrySandusky, is underway. In New York, allegations of decades-old abuse at an elite private school have recently surfaced. The headlines are reminding us how vulnerable kids can be. We teach them to trust and revere the adult leaders in their lives – family members, coaches, teachers, babysitters, clergy and other leaders in our community. But sometimes these trusted adults are …

Grandparent Bootcamp: Do You Need to Enlist?

In the 30 years I’ve talked with grandparents, there has been one common theme: “I’ve raised children myself. I don’t need to be told how to be a good grandparent!” In the past people tried to set up grandparenting classes, and for the most part they just haven’t panned out. Not enough interest. And yet, in recent years I’m hearing more about classes and workshops geared for expectant grandparents. It seems to be a growing trend … so what has …

Grandparents: 5 Ways to Deal With a Bully (or Bullied) Grandchild

Bullying has been in the news far too much lately. It’s heartbreaking, life-changing and all too often life-ending. What constitutes bullying and how prevalent is it? The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported in 2009 that 20 percent of high school students nationwide experienced bullying. The National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice Statistics reports 28 percent of students in grades 6-12 experienced bullying in 2008-09.  The federal government-run website, www.stopbullying.gov, defines bullying as: Bullying is unwanted, …

A Grandparent’s Toolkit for Autism

Suzanne Wright had a feeling that something was very wrong. Her grandson had been talking, but now was regressing. The words just weren’t coming. “Several doctors told me to go home and not worry,” Suzanne recently shared with me. Frustrated, she believed the doctors were wrong. And they were. Her grandson was later diagnosed with Autism, a developmental disorder that usually appears in the first three years of life and affects the brain’s development of communication and social challenges. Suzanne, like many grandparents, …

AARP Survey: Grandparents Providing More Care, Money and Advice

The results of a new AARP survey of grandparents released today highlight the roles they play in the lives of their grandchildren – and 90 percent say that role is an important one. Surveyed grandparents were asked about their roles and the importance of their relationships with their grandchildren. Spoiling the grandkids is by far the tops (36 percent) – that view has stayed consistent over the years. It’s the only role that grandparents seem to think is more theirs …

7 Ways to Avoid Conflict Over Grandparent Visitation

The bond between a grandparent and grandchild can be incredibly strong. There is something special about that skipped-generation relationship. But sometimes family conflict between parents and grandparents can keep grandchildren from seeing their grandparents. This was apparently the situation in a recent Alabama grandparent visitation court case that rose all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court.