happiness

What’s the Secret to a Happy, Long-Term Marriage?

Posted on 01/27/2014 by | Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsWhat does it take to keep a marriage happy, vibrant and enduring? I’m asked that question all the time. And while I think couples all have their own unique recipes for success, I’ve noticed that most include these five essential ingredients: 1. The ability to apologize  Every person in every marriage makes mistakes. Some big, some small, but always some you wish you could un-do. That’s only human, but happy couples admit to their mistakes — and apologize. Just as important is …

5 Best AARP Research Infographics of 2013

Posted on 01/2/2014 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeThe end of the year & beginning of a new year is the time when everyone makes their “lists,” so here’s mine. 2013 was the year of the infographics for AARP Research. Infographics allow us to succinctly communicate important facts as well as tell an overall data story in a visual manner. We learned, like many others, that visual images get more attention than text as the brain can process the visual faster. Of the 48 infographics AARP Research has …

Eudaimonia, Hedonism, and Happiness, Oh My!

Posted on 07/9/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeEveryone wants to be happy — it’s a no-brainer. But what is happiness? The Greek word for happiness is “eudaimonia” which means “having a guiding angel.” In 1776, the Founding Fathers felt it important enough to mention the” pursuit of happiness” in the Declaration of Independence. By the 19th century, economists felt they could measure happiness in units of pleasure, but they learned that money could not buy happiness because a person with twice as much income as another was …

Why Complaining Is Bad for You… but Might Feel Too Good to Stop

Posted on 05/7/2013 by | News, Culture, Sights and Sounds | Comments

Your LifeMy dad was a master complainer. A king of kvetching. He had a symphony of noises and a palette of winces and scowls to make his annoyance known to all. Dad would never have taken part in a growing fad: purple rubber bracelets carved with the words “A Complaint Free World.” Ten million bracelets are supposedly out there in more than 100 countries, although who knows how many are being worn. The bracelet is inspiration for nitpickers, grouches and grumblers …

Online Dating: How About We … Start Again

Posted on 04/9/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

RelationshipsI suspect most people can remember their first kiss, first date, first love — and have even rated those experiences versus subsequent encounters with rose-colored glasses. How many of us have ended up marrying or living for an extended period with their first love? Or maybe you split up and haven’t heard from them since. I married my high school boyfriend, but not until 20 years after graduation. The marriage did not last (over 60% of second marriages end in …

Mayhem in the Quiet Car

Posted on 12/5/2012 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeIf you’ve ever taken Amtrak, you may be familiar with the “quiet car.” This car (as recently described in a New York Times article) is a haven from the constant noise, music and conversation that invades many of our lives. I myself am a regular quiet car rider. It’s a usually peaceful experience and I use the time to catch up on research reports or read a book. But every so often we experience an “incident.” The Wednesday before Thanksgiving …