4 Types of Men You Shouldn’t Date

My friend’s grandfather drove a fruit cart in the Bronx in the early 1900s. My friend was very proud of his family’s fruitful legacy and, in particular, his own fruit-picking skills at the grocery store. He would carefully look at the fruit, smell the fruit, squeeze the fruit and sometimes even shake the fruit. He was determined to select the very best fruit available. Dating is like picking fruit: I look, I smell and sometimes even touch and taste. I might …

How to Become a Human Lie Detector

Body language is often a dead giveaway of lying, but so is language. In Never Be Lied to Again, author David J. Lieberman makes the case that liars use certain words, phrases and syntax. These prevaricators spit out responses quickly like a parrot thinking it conceals what they’re doing, and they repeat your own words when answering your question. For example, ask your boyfriend, “Did you ever cheat on me?” and he might respond, “No, I never cheated on you.” …

How to Catch a Date in a Lie

I’ve found that men I date are “honesty-challenged.” Many of them complain that women at online dating sites also post old photographs of themselves and lie about their age. Perpetrated by either a man or a woman, that seems so counterproductive. Does the person think a date won’t notice the discrepancy? (For that matter, why do women fake orgasms? Are they trying to teach their lovers what not to do?) I confess that I’m too trusting. I couldn’t detect a …

Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …