Marriage Therapy for the Price of a Movie Ticket

By Susan Hagen, University of Rochester A new study finds that watching and discussing movies about relationships is as effective in lowering divorce rates as other, more intensive early marriage counseling programs. Discussing five movies about relationships over a month could cut the three-year divorce rate for newlyweds in half, researchers report. The study, involving 174 couples, is the first long-term investigation to compare different types of early marriage intervention programs. The findings show that an inexpensive, fun, and relatively …

Divorce, American Style

We barely began the new year before celebrity divorces began making headlines. Last week the 1970s pop duo Captain & Tennille (“Love Will Keep Us Together”) announced the end of their 39-year marriage. That came a week after former New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer and his wife, Silda Wall Spitzer, filed for divorce. No surprise there. Gawking at celebrity divorces is nothing new, though there sure are more of them – especially for the headliners who have been around for …

“She Wants to Know Details of My Infidelity”

Q: Last year, I confessed to my wife of 35 years that I’d had affairs with several women approximately 20 years ago. She’s in the process of forgiving me. We have agreed to move forward and have both seen counselors, separately. However, I feel she’s not really moving forward, due to the questions she has about my affairs. She wants me to share my story of infidelity with her: How was I able to do it? How could I do …

The #1 Reason Why Men and Women Over 50 Cheat (It’s Not What You Think!)

According to Dr. Helen Fisher, the biological anthropologist, there is an ancient human tendency to partner and re-partner, which she calls the “four year itch.”  A long time ago, it was assumed that if a child lived to see age four, he or she would survive. The biological parents were then free to move on to new sexual adventures, and the child would be passed on to the group, at which time the “it takes a village” mentality would kick in. This …

Internet Porn Is Ruining My Marriage of 59 Years

Q: My wife and I met as freshmen in college and have been married 59 years. Family emergencies, health issues, my obesity and low physical arousal response had rendered our sex life almost nonexistent, but I viewed us as committed. However, I grew increasing drawn to Internet porn, usually as a distraction to other responsibilities. When my wife caught me she felt deeply betrayed and views it as infidelity. We live together but have been estranged since November. My only …