Inevitable Loss: The Passage of Time

Who do you think is lonelier – adults in their mid to late 40s or adults age 70 and older? One might surmise that the older folks have experienced more loss of loved ones, diminished physical or mental abilities and/or are less active, which could lead to increased loneliness. Counter to what many people think, folks ages 45-49 are lonelier than those 70 years and older according to our research (43% vs. 25%, respectively). In fact, older people are happier …

Dealing with COPD and Dating

Q: I just turned 60, have been divorced for seven years and have not dated anyone. I am really lonely. I work full time and have chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), which sometimes requires me to use oxygen. I am scared and embarrassed about possibly having to use oxygen on a date. Since being diagnosed, I have lost all my self-confidence.  How might I start the dating process? If think if I put my COPD out there, I won’t be …

All the Lonely People

I received word the other day that a long-time acquaintance had died. We had worked together in the beginning years of my newspaper career, and while we hadn’t been that close, he nonetheless had represented a link in a circle of friends that was growing smaller every year. I was losing my history. Join the discussion: Grief and Loss – How do you cope? We were a hard-drinking, cigarette-smoking, fun-loving bunch back then, not eating right or exercising or generally …

Which Is Worse, Being Lonely or Just Being Alone?

Movie star Greta Garbo was famous for saying, “I want to be let alone,” but new research suggests that’s a rotten philosophy to follow if you want to live longer. A British study of 6,500 older adults finds that social isolation, even more than loneliness, may increase an older person’s risk of early death. The study was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. The researchers at University College London knew from previous studies that both isolation …

I’m Lonely In My Marriage

Q: I’m married and lonely. My husband, age 68, has his own business, works six days a week with 10- to 12-hour days, and is recovering from prostate cancer surgery, with a low testosterone count.  Meanwhile, I’m home alone every day by myself with no friends nearby or opportunities to make them (we live in a vacation community with no permanent residents). The one day a week hubby does take off, he sleeps until noon or later to catch up …

Isolation Hinders Recovery Process and Raises Stress Levels, Says Dr. Oz

By Becky Squires, a writer-editor for AARP Foundation || In an interview with ABC News anchor Diane Sawyer, medical expert Dr. Mehmet Oz said he now insists that all the patients he operates on bring someone who loves them with them to the hospital. “If you don’t have a reason for your heart to keep beating, it won’t,” the well-known heart surgeon explained, adding that there is a lot of evidence that being isolated breeds illness in our modern world. “When …