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She Was His North Star

Posted on 04/1/2014 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingHis shoulders slump and his head bows as if his very life force has been suddenly drawn out of him. His face reflects the pain and confusion that his mind and heart are toiling with, struggling to grasp a wisp of reality and understand that the impossible has indeed happened. “I just can’t believe it; I can’t fathom it,” he says. “Are you telling me the truth? She’s not available anymore?” This happens every time my dad asks about my …

5 Tips for Preventing Hair Loss

Posted on 02/11/2014 by | Beauty | Comments

Beauty & FashionSkimpy hair is a real confidence slammer for women 50+.  We blame bad genes or menopause, stock up on volumizing products, do the flip-over blow-dry and get on with it. But the true culprit may be hiding in plain sight: your shampoo and conditioner. New York City hair specialist and restoration surgeon Dr. Robert Dorin has identified a number of ingredients that may be at the root of the problem. Here are some to avoid: Foamers and thickeners. Dr. Dorin …

Losing a Partner — and Finding It Hard to Let Go

Posted on 02/10/2014 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeBy Joan Marans Dim My husband, Stuart, died last June after a decade-long struggle with cancer. He was 77 years old, a former journalist and public relations executive, a marathon runner, and a man beloved and respected by family and friends. In going through his belongings, I often find things that I have forgotten about, small things that taken together are not small. In the back of a drawer, I discover a poem that he wrote when we were students …

Losing Mom: The Void That Can’t Be Filled

Posted on 10/31/2013 by | Aging, Home & Family Expert | Comments

CaregivingIt is with an impossibly heavy heart that I write this post. Patricia Ann Stutz Goyer, passed on Oct. 11 after a brief and sudden illness. To many she was friend, mentor, teacher, director, aunt, sister, wife … to me she was Mom, and she has been the inspiration for so much of my work and writing over the past four years. Mom was a remarkable woman. She grew up in Indiana, salutatorian of her high school graduating class. She …

Moving Beyond Loss in Words and Pictures

Posted on 09/26/2013 by | AARP Blog Author | Comments

Your LifeWhen Judith Fox’s husband died at 53, she found herself in an “alien world” of grief and shock. At only 50 years old, she didn’t know any other widows and had no idea how to process the loss. Fast forward three years, and Fox was lucky enough to find love again. Three years after that, her second husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. An award-winning photographer and writer, Fox transformed these difficult experiences into inspiration for her books. Her latest, One …

Home Is Where the People Are

Posted on 09/23/2013 by | Volunteering | Comments

Your Life“Are you sure?” I asked my uncle. I looked around the basement and waited for the catch. “Sure, I’m sure. Take it,” he said, dusting off the black leather. “You’ve got room in the truck and space in the new place. It’s yours.” Suddenly, Pop Pop’s living room chair belonged to me. It was last month, and my boyfriend and I were en route to Ohio, where we now live and where I go to school. We had said our …