When Your Kid’s Romance Ends and You Hurt, Too

“They say that breaking up is hard to do. Now I know, I know that it’s true.”  That Neil Sedaka song was recorded twice — in 1962 and in 1975 — a testament to the truth of the lyrics. Breakups are painful, even when it’s not you but your adult child. At a recent wedding, a guest looked wistfully at the joyous couple and mentioned that his twentysomething son had ended a long-term relationship with a woman whom the father …

Dating After 50: Stop Looking for the Wrong Person

I know a lot of men and women over 50 who are looking for love . . . in all the wrong places. It’s not that they’re sidestepping some of the great new ways to meet new people, like online. And, they’re definitely putting themselves out there more to spread the net a bit wider. No, the problem runs much deeper. According to Bobbi Palmer, the dating expert I recently interviewed, it seems that too many of us hold on …

What’s the Secret to a Happy, Long-Term Marriage?

What does it take to keep a marriage happy, vibrant and enduring? I’m asked that question all the time. And while I think couples all have their own unique recipes for success, I’ve noticed that most include these five essential ingredients: 1. The ability to apologize  Every person in every marriage makes mistakes. Some big, some small, but always some you wish you could un-do. That’s only human, but happy couples admit to their mistakes – and apologize. Just as important is …

Is That How YOU Met?

I met my wife the old-fashioned way, at a dance where she was another guy’s date. Our best friends met in a bar and discovered they had the same birthday. They’ve shared more than two dozen since. But that was all before the Internet. Today, 1 in 4 people between ages 50 and 64 personally knows somebody who met and fell in love online, according to a new survey from the Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project. For …

At 96, Fred Stobaugh and His Love Song Are a Huge Hit

A 96-year-old widower’s sweet song about his late wife not only has brought him national attention, he’s also achieved a new record: The oldest artist to have a song on Billboard‘s top 100 – beating out 85-year-old Tony Bennett, no less. Fred Stobaugh of Peoria, Ill., made the iTunes top 10 last month, alongside megastars like Lady Gaga and Katy Perry. Stobaugh lost his wife, Lorraine, in April. They met in 1938 at an A&W Root Beer stand where she …

Men Don’t Only Want Sex. They Want Friendship, Too

Q: I have been divorced for almost three years and am having difficulty meeting men. Most of the guys I encounter just want sex. I want more: respect, friendship, kindness, mutual enjoyment. Any suggestions? After 29 1/2 years of an abusive marriage, I would like to think there are some nice men out there. Dr. Pepper Schwartz: There are definitely some nice men out there. Of course, your life has been colored by an abusive marriage and you have to …