Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

‘Our Generation Led the Way’

It was my nephew’s wedding about six years ago. He and his bride had asked me to officiate at the ceremony. The irony was probably lost on many, but not on me: Here I was, “marrying” my nephew, yet I was not able to marry my partner of over 30 years. The wedding was beautiful. During the reception, the emcee asked married couples to come onto the dance floor. It was a standard and sweet gimmick done at many receptions …

Meet My First Date From Online Matchmaking

I’ve learned that any man who has 25 or more photos of himself in his online dating profile isn’t worth talking with. Why? Because you can’t talk with him. He does all the talking. I spoke with one man handsome and distinguished enough to be in a TV brandy commercial. I vetted him as any good journalist/single woman would, and he was legitimate. He had interesting jobs. His background and politics matched mine. There was only one problem. I made the …

How to Spot a Bot When Dating Online

One of the most common complaints of online daters is that their dates misrepresent themselves – sometimes even telling bald-face lies about being bald! I’m sorry, but if I am not attracted to bald men and you’re wearing a discreet toupee in your online photo, I won’t be thrilled when you show up for a date hairless. Petition online dating sites to help stop scammers » A date might also appear much older in person than his online photograph or …

Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …

My Online Dating Generation Gap

Who’s contacting me at online dating sites? It would appear to be the much younger and the much older. First, let me be clear: I support intergenerational dating. One of my top 10 favorite movies is Harold and Maude, with pubescent, death-obsessed Harold (Bud Cort) falling in love with a sexy, vivacious 79-year-old Maude (Ruth Gordon). To me, any relationship, no matter the age difference, that reinvigorates peoples’ love for living is a good thing. I’m told that there are …