Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire: An Online Dating Epidemic

My biggest criticism of online dating is this: People lie. Like my ex. When I came across his profile on a site, he had shed eight years. A man I dated a couple of months ago first told me he was separated, but later admitted he was actually still living in the same house with his wife. They’d been sleeping on opposite sides of the house for years, he said, but then he confessed that she recently slipped into his …

A Potential Mate: How to Know Him When You See Him

The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome. As a “dreamer soul” sign in Altea’s system, my energy flow is central, which means I’m supposed to get along with introverts, extroverts and other centralists. It’s like having type AB positive blood type, the universal recipient: I’m receptive to everybody. A new you within reach — Visit …

Why Soul Searchers Have It Wrong

“Searching for a soul mate” seems to be a preoccupation on Internet dating sites. Supposedly, finding some preordained person will almost effortlessly foster days of mutual bliss. Should any conflicts arise, they will be easily negotiated. Most importantly, soul mates will bring out the best in one another. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I don’t believe in soul mates. There, I said it! I don’t think there is just one and only one person out …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

‘Our Generation Led the Way’

It was my nephew’s wedding about six years ago. He and his bride had asked me to officiate at the ceremony. The irony was probably lost on many, but not on me: Here I was, “marrying” my nephew, yet I was not able to marry my partner of over 30 years. The wedding was beautiful. During the reception, the emcee asked married couples to come onto the dance floor. It was a standard and sweet gimmick done at many receptions …

Meet My First Date From Online Matchmaking

I’ve learned that any man who has 25 or more photos of himself in his online dating profile isn’t worth talking with. Why? Because you can’t talk with him. He does all the talking. I spoke with one man handsome and distinguished enough to be in a TV brandy commercial. I vetted him as any good journalist/single woman would, and he was legitimate. He had interesting jobs. His background and politics matched mine. There was only one problem. I made the …