How to Spot a Bot When Dating Online

One of the most common complaints of online daters is that their dates misrepresent themselves – sometimes even telling bald-face lies about being bald! I’m sorry, but if I am not attracted to bald men and you’re wearing a discreet toupee in your online photo, I won’t be thrilled when you show up for a date hairless. Petition online dating sites to help stop scammers » A date might also appear much older in person than his online photograph or …

Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …

My Online Dating Generation Gap

Who’s contacting me at online dating sites? It would appear to be the much younger and the much older. First, let me be clear: I support intergenerational dating. One of my top 10 favorite movies is Harold and Maude, with pubescent, death-obsessed Harold (Bud Cort) falling in love with a sexy, vivacious 79-year-old Maude (Ruth Gordon). To me, any relationship, no matter the age difference, that reinvigorates peoples’ love for living is a good thing. I’m told that there are …

Thanks for Caring, Doubters. But I’m Ready for Online Dating

I have to confess: I am a glass-half-full-pollyannish-romantic-type person. Still, when I hear skepticism and concern about my decision for a new adventure in online dating, I get the point. I will be cautious with my expectations, and how I approach this experience. I have a lot more going on in my life besides dating men. Keeping physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy requires a balance of diverse pursuits. Men are just one piece of this tasty pie called life. I don’t think there …

African Americans Share What Makes Them Happy

In 2012, AARP released a study titled “Beyond Happiness: Thriving,” which explored what happiness means to adults and what it takes to thrive as they age. AARP surveyed more than 4,000 Americans ages 35-80, including African Americans/blacks. Regardless of age, relationships were found to be universally important and key drivers of happiness. Among African Americans/blacks age 50 and over, family, relationships and faith top the list of experiences that contribute to personal happiness. The most significant were: Watching your children, …

Millennials Make Marriage Proposals Public Affairs

Valentine’s Day this past weekend brought sweets and other treats for loved ones, and for some couples, an engagement. A hard-to-believe 6 million people told American Express that they were either expecting or planning a marriage proposal on the national love holiday. How many actually materialized is unknown, but chances are that most were not low-key, drop-on-a-knee affairs. Proposals now require a fancy restaurant, flowers, a party with friends — and that’s the small-scale version. In yet another generational difference, …