How I’m Debunking a Myth About Online Dating

A recent Washington Post article written by Christian Rudder, author of Dataclysm and cofounder of OkCupid, debunked five myths about online dating. The fifth: “Photos are the best way to tell whether you’ll be attracted to someone.” Rudder described a little experiment to promote “blind-dating” on his dating site. He called it Love Is Blind Day. For just one day, his company removed all the profile photographs on the dating site. Site traffic dropped more than 80 percent that day. …

Should I Lower My Dating Expectations?

It took a few weeks, but Mr. 99% finally called. He’s the elusive man with whom I shared 99 percent of the same answers for hundreds of questions on the OkCupid online dating site. We “conversed” for an hour. Although he was interesting, he also did 99 percent of the talking. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I followed up by e-mail on the OkCupid site. No response. Then I left a phone message. Another week has passed …

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire: An Online Dating Epidemic

My biggest criticism of online dating is this: People lie. Like my ex. When I came across his profile on a site, he had shed eight years. A man I dated a couple of months ago first told me he was separated, but later admitted he was actually still living in the same house with his wife. They’d been sleeping on opposite sides of the house for years, he said, but then he confessed that she recently slipped into his …

A Potential Mate: How to Know Him When You See Him

The book Soul Signs by Rosemary Altea not only taught me about myself, it also taught me how to determine compatible mates for me. With my horrible track record, the lesson was welcome. As a “dreamer soul” sign in Altea’s system, my energy flow is central, which means I’m supposed to get along with introverts, extroverts and other centralists. It’s like having type AB positive blood type, the universal recipient: I’m receptive to everybody. A new you within reach — Visit …

Why Soul Searchers Have It Wrong

“Searching for a soul mate” seems to be a preoccupation on Internet dating sites. Supposedly, finding some preordained person will almost effortlessly foster days of mutual bliss. Should any conflicts arise, they will be easily negotiated. Most importantly, soul mates will bring out the best in one another. A new you within reach — Visit AARP Life Reimagined » I don’t believe in soul mates. There, I said it! I don’t think there is just one and only one person out …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …