‘Our Generation Led the Way’

It was my nephew’s wedding about six years ago. He and his bride had asked me to officiate at the ceremony. The irony was probably lost on many, but not on me: Here I was, “marrying” my nephew, yet I was not able to marry my partner of over 30 years. The wedding was beautiful. During the reception, the emcee asked married couples to come onto the dance floor. It was a standard and sweet gimmick done at many receptions …

Thanks for Caring, Doubters. But I’m Ready for Online Dating

I have to confess: I am a glass-half-full-pollyannish-romantic-type person. Still, when I hear skepticism and concern about my decision for a new adventure in online dating, I get the point. I will be cautious with my expectations, and how I approach this experience. I have a lot more going on in my life besides dating men. Keeping physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy requires a balance of diverse pursuits. Men are just one piece of this tasty pie called life. I don’t think there …

On Different Sexual Wavelengths?

Q: My wife is rarely interested in sex and gets irritated when I drop hints about meeting in the bedroom or wherever. When the deed does (infrequently) occur, though, she has roaring orgasms — which I love to help with. You’d think that would be a plus, but we’re on different wavelengths, and now I worry about the “use it or lose it” thing setting in. A: Women’s sexual desire is a mystery — a mystery to experts, a mystery …

Exclusive! Sneak Peek at Emma Thompson’s Newest

  Dakota Fanning stars as the teen bride of middle-aged Victorian artist and critic John Ruskin — an eccentric genius who refused to consummate their marriage — in the new historical drama Effie Gray, written by and costarring Oscar winner Emma Thompson. In this exclusive Movies for Grownups clip from the film, opening April 3, Effie (Fanning) receives some spectacularly unhelpful marriage tips from her new mother-in-law (Julie Walters). Thompson plays Effie’s friend, Lady Elizabeth Eastlake, who urges the girl to …

Family and Medical Leave Rights Expanded to All Legally Married Couples

Starting March 27, legally married same-sex couples will be able to take unpaid time off to care for a spouse or sick family members even if they live in a state that doesn’t recognize their marriage. The final rule issued by the Department of Labor revises the definition of “spouse” in the Family and Medical Leave Act to recognize legally married same-sex couples regardless of where they live. Prior to that, only couples that lived in a state that recognized …

Millennials Make Marriage Proposals Public Affairs

Valentine’s Day this past weekend brought sweets and other treats for loved ones, and for some couples, an engagement. A hard-to-believe 6 million people told American Express that they were either expecting or planning a marriage proposal on the national love holiday. How many actually materialized is unknown, but chances are that most were not low-key, drop-on-a-knee affairs. Proposals now require a fancy restaurant, flowers, a party with friends — and that’s the small-scale version. In yet another generational difference, …