marriage

“She Wants to Know Details of My Infidelity”

Posted on 07/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: Last year, I confessed to my wife of 35 years that I’d had affairs with several women approximately 20 years ago. She’s in the process of forgiving me. We have agreed to move forward and have both seen counselors, separately. However, I feel she’s not really moving forward, due to the questions she has about my affairs. She wants me to share my story of infidelity with her: How was I able to do it? How could I do …

Ginny Johnson Not Given Enough Credit for Sex Study Contributions

Posted on 07/26/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

LegacyGinny Johnson’s death brings back a lot of memories. I remember, as a new Ph.D. and young professor, sitting around many living rooms with her and her even more famous husband, Bill Masters, talking about sex research, about women in the field, and about differences in opinions between the behavioral scientists (my group) and  the medical people (Bill’s and, to some extent, Ginny’s group). Ginny was Bill Masters’ partner in sex research. Starting out as a secretary in his office, she transitioned to the …

A Renewed Sense of Self After Cancer

Posted on 07/15/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: My wife lost a breast to cancer. Chemotherapy took six months, during which she basically lay on the couch and had no energy. It’s now 16 months after chemo and she’s still on the couch. I can’t get her to get up and do much of anything, including sex. We have no money to do any traveling since Social Security is all we get. Any ideas? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: She sounds as if she might be depressed. It is …

Is Your Marriage Stronger If It Started Online?

Posted on 06/6/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsYou have a slightly better chance of staying together if you meet online: That’s the finding of a recent collaboration between a dating website and a respected University of Chicago psychologist, and to me it’s Big News. Why? Because it’s a promising first span across online dating’s credibility gap. Or should I say credibility canyon? Plenty of people meet online — in fact, the study suggests one in three married couples now meet online — but until now they’ve tended …

Travel Is the Best Aphrodisiac

Posted on 02/11/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsIn this new world of branding, my brand is as a sex, love and relationships expert. But within that ring of romanticism, my heart belongs squarely to romantic travel. I have just finished a manuscript with AARP called Perfect Places for Romance and Passion at Any Age and I previously worked with the same coauthor, Dr. Janet Lever, on the newly released Getaway Guide to a Great Sex Weekend. Once my love of romantic travel might have seemed a bit …

Enough Is Enough

Posted on 01/11/2013 by |Sex & Relationships | Comments

RelationshipsQ: I don’t love my husband anymore. He is controlling, verbally abusive and only wants me for sex. He is retired and I work full time. He never helps around the house, yet questions everything I do. If I work overtime at my job as a medical assistant, he accuses me of having an affair. He has driven my son and daughter away. We went for counseling, and the counselor said he never loved me, just needed me. He has …