Is Marriage More Loving, or Boring, in Retirement?

Is marriage more boring or more fulfilling in retirement? (Hint: It’s better than you think.) Do spouses in blended families have different financial priorities for their own children than for their stepchildren? These were some of the questions that 5,415 people were asked in a study called “Family & Retirement: The Elephant in the Room.” Folks weighed in about their hopes and fears when they retire, whether they’d sacrifice their own financial security to help their adult children now, and …

Is That How YOU Met?

I met my wife the old-fashioned way, at a dance where she was another guy’s date. Our best friends met in a bar and discovered they had the same birthday. They’ve shared more than two dozen since. But that was all before the Internet. Today, 1 in 4 people between ages 50 and 64 personally knows somebody who met and fell in love online, according to a new survey from the Pew Research Center’s Internet & American Life Project. For …

At 96, Fred Stobaugh and His Love Song Are a Huge Hit

A 96-year-old widower’s sweet song about his late wife not only has brought him national attention, he’s also achieved a new record: The oldest artist to have a song on Billboard‘s top 100 – beating out 85-year-old Tony Bennett, no less. Fred Stobaugh of Peoria, Ill., made the iTunes top 10 last month, alongside megastars like Lady Gaga and Katy Perry. Stobaugh lost his wife, Lorraine, in April. They met in 1938 at an A&W Root Beer stand where she …

Not a Typical Movie Night

Q: Could you recommend good sex videos for older couples? My husband and I have been together 35 years, and we see ads in the newspaper for such videos. We’d like to view them, but their websites seem flaky and not very knowledgeable about issues of older couples. We’d like to watch videos to possibly learn some different techniques.  Dr. Pepper Schwartz: Good for you! You can get wonderful ideas and tips from videos (and they can be a turn-on, …

Premature Ejaculation: Is It Fixable?

Q: My wife seems to want intercourse only but I have a problem with premature ejaculation (PE). In my previous marriage, I satisfied my ex-wife with oral sex and then we’d have short intercourse. My current wife won’t let me perform oral sex, but I believe it’s because she prefers intercourse. Part of my problem is that her ex was long-lasting and I can’t get it out of my head. She won’t go to counseling. We did, and it was …

Depression Meds in the Way of Sex

Q: My husband and I both enjoy sex, but I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and have been on all kinds of medication for 10-plus years. I cannot do without them. I also cannot achieve orgasm. I’ve been to so many doctors, and they all say the same thing: It’s my meds. My question is: Do I have to pick between being happy on my meds, or having an orgasm? Lately it’s getting hard to pick. I really need …