Solo Sex @ 90+

Q: You omitted an entire group of people in your article for AARP The Magazine on “Sex After 50.” There are those of us who are wa-a-ay over 50 and still enjoy sex, even though it’s solo. I don’t know about men, but I really think women stay more alive and “with it” in every way when they self-pleasure. I have some very good mechanical friends that I enjoy; care to comment on that for the group you overlooked? A: …

After 30 Years of Marriage, Now He Wants Porn?

Q: My husband of 30 years suddenly insisted on introducing pornography into our marriage. (He also wanted us to be “swingers.” I said no.) I tried instructional sex videos, but stopped when they turned into mere porn. This is my second marriage, and I had other partners between marriages. I like oral sex and multiple positions, but my husband now calls me a prude, rigid, superstitious Christian zealot for refusing to watch these sex videos. At his insistence, we now …

Who Are More Unfaithful — Men or Women?

Q: In a recent column you said that in most long-term marriages that fail, men are generally the ones who cheat on their wives. I’d like to know where you got that information. The statistics I’ve read in the past few years show a higher incidence of infidelity from women than men. A: Fair enough — my information came from these two sources: 1. A study of 25,000 respondents that I did in collaboration with Jim Witte (a Harvard-trained demographer …