My New Strategy: 6 Dates, 5 Men, 1 Week

One man I was going out with said that men date different women simultaneously to find the most appealing one. Others tell me you have to kiss many frogs to find your prince. So I finally decided to spice up my sequential dating “strategy” and try dating more than one man at a time. This past week I went on six dates with five different men. Three were blind dates from an online site and two were men I’ve been …

How a Woman Can Date Like a Man

A recent first date was quite forthcoming. He suggested that I date like a man. As a man, he dates multiple women at the same time and whittles away those he doesn’t like until only one he likes remains. He referred to the women he’s dating as his “harem.” It turned out that I became the woman he finally selected, and to no one’s surprise, the relationship didn’t last long. It did, however, plant an idea. Why can’t a woman date …

How to Catch a Date in a Lie

I’ve found that men I date are “honesty-challenged.” Many of them complain that women at online dating sites also post old photographs of themselves and lie about their age. Perpetrated by either a man or a woman, that seems so counterproductive. Does the person think a date won’t notice the discrepancy? (For that matter, why do women fake orgasms? Are they trying to teach their lovers what not to do?) I confess that I’m too trusting. I couldn’t detect a …

Am I Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?

After half a year of visiting online dating sites, I’m a bit discouraged. I was hoping they would lead me to someone engaging, honest and sexy. That hasn’t happened, but instead of giving up, I’ve started trying to meet people at different kinds of websites. Conventional wisdom says, do what you love and you’re more likely to meet people you like. I love playing tennis, so I joined TennisRound, which pairs players of similar skill and location. To my delight, …

Why So Many Online Suitors Make Me Want to Scream

Here’s an all-too-typical opening line from a man reaching out to me on an online dating site: “You look like sweet nectar and I want to make you scream.” I almost wrote back, “You’re right. You could make me scream, that is if I ever saw your face.” Instead, I simply didn’t respond. So many electronic suitors write that they are looking for a soul mate, when they show interest only in the mating part. Not all men, mind you, …

How I Settled on My Online Dating Profile

Creating your online dating persona might be the most difficult step in attracting the right men. Do you share what you think men want to hear or do you share what you think will screen out the undesirables and screen in the desirables? The answer is, yes. You need good bait to attract and catch the type of fish you really want. This analogy is perfect for my Florida online dating scene, but applicable worldwide. First, you need a good …