A Caregiver’s Tough Lessons Learned

A friend recently told me she didn’t understand how I survived 2012. It was a rough year, to say the least, for our family. In retrospect, I know that I do what each of the other 42 million caregivers across this nation do – we just keep going – what else are we to do? The good news is that along with the challenges, there are also many triumphs, blessings and lessons learned. As I look back at the past …

Tips for Multigenerational Living

I was pleased to be included as an expert in a recent NBC Nightly News three-part series on caregiving. The series culminated in a segment in which I was interviewed about multigenerational living. After many years of working with multigenerational families, and now that I, too, live in a multigenerational household with my parents and their live-in caregiver, I’ve learned a lot. Here’s a roundup of my tips for those of you in similar situations – or those of you …

Making the Most of Multigenerational Living

Editor’s note: This post follows the first in this two-part series, Multigenerational Living on the Rise. These posts are modified from Amy Goyer’s article, Multigenerational Living is Rising, and May be to Everyone’s Benefit in the September/October 2011 issue of the American Society on Aging’s Aging Today. Those living in multigenerational households admit there are challenges that come with this living arrangement, but most say the benefits outweigh them. Financial reasons are often cited as the primary motivator for multigenerational …

Multigenerational Living: On the Rise

Editor’s note: This post is modified from Amy Goyer’s article, Multigenerational Living Is Rising, and May Be to Everyone’s Benefit in the September/October 2011 issue of the American Society on Aging’s Aging Today magazine. Laura and Paul Patyk, both in their mid-40s, have a full house. With six children, any home would be a bit crowded. But in 2003, the Patyks invited Laura’s parents to live with them when her mother became ill with congestive heart failure and a stroke. A …

The Goyers: Opting for Multigenerational Living

I’ve had a strange obsession with watching The Waltons the past few months. I find myself DVRing every episode on three different channels. I watch 4 episodes a day. For some reason, I’ve been oddly attracted to their TV-land multigenerational family living and the connection to my childhood (when The Waltons was in its prime.) Now I know why. In the beginning of September my parents and I will be moving in together, forming our own version of 21st century …

Census: Recession Drove Shared Households and Higher Poverty Rates

A new Census Bureau report confirms what every re-feathered nest, caregiving combo, or extended family household knows: Following the recent recession, there were more combined households in 2010 (22 million – 18.7 percent of all households) than there were in 2007 (19.7 million.) And guess what else? Personal poverty rates are higher among the adults who live in these households. The findings validate my favorite refrain: When finances get tough, families come together.  That includes opening our homes, cleaning out …