Why One Online Dating Profile Seemed Way Too Familiar

My weeks on dating sites haven’t turned up any interesting candidates – until today. I was matched with a very interesting man. We are 85 percent compatible, and his profile seemed very, very familiar. That’s because Match.com paired me with my very own “wasband,” Jimmy! Remember the song “If You Like Pina Coladas” by another Jimmy, Jimmy Buffet? It’s about a couple who answer each other’s ad for a new partner. Unlike the song, there will be no happy reconciliation …

My Online Dating Generation Gap

Who’s contacting me at online dating sites? It would appear to be the much younger and the much older. First, let me be clear: I support intergenerational dating. One of my top 10 favorite movies is Harold and Maude, with pubescent, death-obsessed Harold (Bud Cort) falling in love with a sexy, vivacious 79-year-old Maude (Ruth Gordon). To me, any relationship, no matter the age difference, that reinvigorates peoples’ love for living is a good thing. I’m told that there are …

Thanks for Caring, Doubters. But I’m Ready for Online Dating

I have to confess: I am a glass-half-full-pollyannish-romantic-type person. Still, when I hear skepticism and concern about my decision for a new adventure in online dating, I get the point. I will be cautious with my expectations, and how I approach this experience. I have a lot more going on in my life besides dating men. Keeping physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy requires a balance of diverse pursuits. Men are just one piece of this tasty pie called life. I don’t think there …

And So It Begins — My 11 to 1 Blog

Most nightmares are not a ratio, but mine was last night. The ratio 11 to 1 kept floating across my frontal lobe. Eleven to one. Eleven to one in all different sizes and typefaces — actually hovering in my mind, mocking me. Eleven to one is the ratio I read earlier that night on an online dating website: If you’re in your 50s (the new 40s!), there are 11 single women to every single man. Yikes, say it isn’t so. …

The Online Dating Pitch

Q: I’ve been a widow for almost three years and have gone on some dating sites. I just turned 70, and most of the men in my age category are looking for 50 to 60 year-olds. I don’t look 70, but I don’t look 50 either. I have a difficult time putting things into an email. How and where do I start to email a man I think I may want to meet in person? Dr. Pepper Schwartz: The most …

Is Your Marriage Stronger If It Started Online?

You have a slightly better chance of staying together if you meet online: That’s the finding of a recent collaboration between a dating website and a respected University of Chicago psychologist, and to me it’s Big News. Why? Because it’s a promising first span across online dating’s credibility gap. Or should I say credibility canyon? Plenty of people meet online – in fact, the study suggests one in three married couples now meet online – but until now they’ve tended …